My teacher told me he talked to my sister and I wasn't really paying much attention, until he told me that he can sense that my sister is more outgoing. I just hated the way he view me as and lot of girls would say that im shy. I just wanted to know in general is it possible loosing your shyness...I really want to work on that this weekend and I just need some advice on this. This week I was planning on going up to this hot chick and asked if she wanted to hangout sometime but dam I get so nervous and make excuses for not doing it. Tomorrow is my last day to do this and I try to put myself in the right mindset but when I see her I just loose my positive mindset.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
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TheWayOfAllFlesh
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you cant lose your shyness over the weekend unless you are very luckyJamal said:My teacher told me he talked to my sister and I wasn't really paying much attention, until he told me that he can sense that my sister is more outgoing. I just hated the way he view me as and lot of girls would say that im shy. I just wanted to know in general is it possible loosing your shyness...I really want to work on that this weekend and I just need some advice on this. This week I was planning on going up to this hot chick and asked if she wanted to hangout sometime but dam I get so nervous and make excuses for not doing it. Tomorrow is my last day to do this and I try to put myself in the right mindset but when I see her I just loose my positive mindset.
i only managed to do it by going to a festival
but work slowly
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talk to her. rejection is better than regret, this line is preached all over this website, but just remember this. the key to getting better with women is practice and persistence. the master PUAs, this didnt come to them overnight. ive heard that the average PUA has approached 1000-5000 women. and even they have a 1:3 success ratio. just do it man
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Lol explain?TheWayOfAllFlesh said:you cant lose your shyness over the weekend unless you are very lucky
i only managed to do it by going to a festival
It absolutely is possible to lose your shyness. If you think about why you're shy in the first place, it's a combination of fear, and patterning.Jamal said:This week I was planning on going up to this hot chick and asked if she wanted to hangout sometime but dam I get so nervous and make excuses for not doing it. Tomorrow is my last day to do this and I try to put myself in the right mindset but when I see her I just loose my positive mindset.
So if you lose the fear (face it, just do it) and pattern being outgoing, the rest will just snap together. I promise!
As for mindsets, I know the community is huge on them but you don't need one: You just need to act. If you succeed, figure out why. If you fail, figure out why. It's as simple as that.
Good luck!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why would they say that?I just hated the way he view me as and lot of girls would say that im shy.
I don't think you can ever lose your shyness. I think you can hide it well though. I'm the biggest dork in the world when talking to a hot woman. I stumble for words, lose eye contact, drool, whatever. And I hit on them ALL THE TIME. It's not as though I haven't had any practice. It's just in my makeup. Several have taken me up on the offer though because I fake it until I make it. You stay out there and keep going.
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well i know it sounds silly but i went there and simply lost my inhibitions and seemed to become myself.steve_erkle said:Lol explain?
ever seen that scene in Big Daddy where he gives the boy the sunglasses so noone can see him. well it was kinda like that and i thought if id wear them and did what i did noone would care
eventually by the end of the weekend i stopped wearing them and acted the same and still didnt care.
that weekend was a turning point for me
Download festival again this year me thinks
Furyguy
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You can overcome shyness completely. I was one of the shyest kids in my school for middle school and high school. Now I'm probably the most outgoing person in my group of friends.
Just work at it. People are generally friendly and accepting anyways as long as you're not a weirdo.
Just work at it. People are generally friendly and accepting anyways as long as you're not a weirdo.