Shy guy that cant meet women

[Logan546]

I am 32 yrs old and seem to have a rough time meeting women. i just dont know how to talk to them. i do have poor conversational skills which doesnt help. how can start conversing with them. i work as a courier for a bank and she alot of females that i want to get to know but it is hard. any suggestions?

 

[Maxtro]

Wow still shy at 32? That has got to be rough. I didn't loose my shyness until I was 25.

My suggestion for you is to start reading some articles in the Hall of Fame Read the DJ Bible I'd also recommend these eBooks Michael Pilinski - Without Embarrassment, Wayne Elise (Juggler) - How to be a Pickup Artist and David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating.

As for how to start conversing. Just try to talk to everybody. Most people are also shy, especially women, until somebody breaks the ice with them. At this stage in the game, the most important thing is quantity. Talk to lots of people about random stuff but don't try to go for deep conversations.

 

[Cruise]

Just MAN THE UCKF UP... PERIOD.

Here's an idea... NOBODY GIVES A FLYING DOOKIE STAIN WHO YOU ARE. Maybe yesterday (hopefully longer), someone used to wipe your azzcheeks and spoonfed you some sweet potatas and mashed peas, and burped you until you finally felt comfortable and tired enough to let go of that loving embrace (and milky nipple) to just spend some comfort time with yourself in your own little cozy wozy spongebob beddy...

BUT TIME'S CHANGED...

And unless you've actually recognized what's happening around you, allow me to help confiscate at least a minor portion of the blueball-riddles you've been trying to figure out, huh?

1. YOU'RE A MAN.
2. YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE A MAN IN THIS SOCIETY.
3. THEREFORE, BE A MAN.
4. THINK LIKE A MAN.
5. TALK LIKE A MAN.
6. DESIRE A WOMAN LIKE A FARGGGIN MAN.
7. AND LOOK THE WORLD, AND EVERYONE ELSE IN IT, LIKE A MAN.

Courage, Valor, Honesty, Ambition, Drive, Persistence, Vigor, Sexually Driven, and will NEVER, EVER, EVER, LET ANYBODY determine how your life will be. YOU do it. And stop looking for some fukkin 18 year old kids to tell you how to do it.

 

[Thorns]

I'd suggest reading the Dj Bible. There's a reason it's at the bottom of every page. Go through it, and just start having conversations with people. Anyone, everyone, you'll get better. Then come back and tell us how it went.

 

[Maxfarsigth]

Read the DJ bibble.
Put your mind into bettering up this aspect of life, its time to !!!!
Practice practice practice!
Dont give up till u find yourself improving, then repeat the practice and improvement.

Dude learn the basics from books, forums, DJ advice and dont hesitate to try and apply them in the real life!!

Good luck ! oh and .. that guy was right: MAN UP !

 

[Master Bates]

Just MAN THE UCKF UP... PERIOD.

Here's an idea... NOBODY GIVES A FLYING DOOKIE STAIN WHO YOU ARE. Maybe yesterday (hopefully longer), someone used to wipe your azzcheeks and spoonfed you some sweet potatas and mashed peas, and burped you until you finally felt comfortable and tired enough to let go of that loving embrace (and milky nipple) to just spend some comfort time with yourself in your own little cozy wozy spongebob beddy...

BUT TIME'S CHANGED...

And unless you've actually recognized what's happening around you, allow me to help confiscate at least a minor portion of the blueball-riddles you've been trying to figure out, huh?

1. YOU'RE A MAN.
2. YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE A MAN IN THIS SOCIETY.
3. THEREFORE, BE A MAN.
4. THINK LIKE A MAN.
5. TALK LIKE A MAN.
6. DESIRE A WOMAN LIKE A FARGGGIN MAN.
7. AND LOOK THE WORLD, AND EVERYONE ELSE IN IT, LIKE A MAN.

Courage, Valor, Honesty, Ambition, Drive, Persistence, Vigor, Sexually Driven, and will NEVER, EVER, EVER, LET ANYBODY determine how your life will be. YOU do it. And stop looking for some fukkin 18 year old kids to tell you how to do it.

do people who type bullcrap like this actually think it'll help someone like the OP? wow ur a big man, typin' in caps and all.

 

[coder]

The answer is in you subject title. Don't be shy. Shyness will do nothing good for you with women or anything else in your life. You don't have to be shy. Have you thought about why you are shy? Is isn't genetic. You have been programmed to be afraid to make a social mistake. You must take risks. You will make mistakes. That's OK. That's how you learn. Just as a person that is afraid of flying must fly to get over it, you must start conversations to get past shyness. Some people will be sh!tty to you. That is because they are jerks. Put yourself out there and if they don't like you, move on to someone else. The more you be social, the more you will learn and the less mistakes you will make. And no matter how good you are, some jerks will still not like you. That's just how it is.

 

[Cruise]

do people who type bullcrap like this actually think it'll help someone like the OP? wow ur a big man, typin' in caps and all.

Sorry man, did I offend you? :yes:

Let's all snap our fingers and write poems then about how the world is such a scary place to live.

In all honesty though, if you can't see where I'm coming from, then maybe you should stick to patching up people's feelings with your compassionate dribble. Sorry, but where I come from, men are expected to be men. Now I'm going to go off on a hinge and assume that brother man OP may've been just misinformed on how women should be treated, otherwise he wouldn't be having an issue with shyness around women. Maybe he didn't have a father figure to show him the ropes. Maybe he didn't have other male friends who were successful with women in their own respects to emulate. Maybe this, maybe that. Yada yada yada, bada boom, bada bang, bada bing... now he's here as a 32 year old virgin who ain't had play since play had him. Now... I don't know about you, but I see this as a seriuos fuggin problem. Or, pardon my all-caps language, a SERIOUS FUGGIN PROBLEM...

Again, if you're thinking that I'm treating him any more harsh and that I'm trying to act tough or what not, then you must be missing the point of the whole matter here. Sometimes IMO it's better to get a little bit of this box: & :trouble: ) than a lotta bit of this cheer: ).

Catch my drift square boy?