"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Shy Girl Tips needed

KSoze

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Okay,

I've met this woman that is somewhat shy and religious. Which i'm fine with. I'm almost 30 and looking at long-term with a decent girl; I'm not looking for the hot "easy" chick anymore.

However, it's throwing a serious wrench into my game. I normally don't have a problem getting women, making moves, conversing, etc (Of course, most of my experiences were with very open chicks)

So here i have found whats IMO the right type of girl to pursue. Making this romance is turning out to be more difficult than im accostumed to.

I knew her for about a month before we started dated...she works at one of the stores im an independent contractor for...we talked very briefly at the time about once a week then i asked her out....its not a corporate/professional environment or anything so no worries about dating co-workers :D

So far, I've taken her to two concerts (with friends), dinner, and today we had lunch. I haven't even kissed her. Yeah i know, get with the program chump...lol (this is the longest i've ever went without kissing the girl).

We've had some great conversations. She's obviously still interested in me otherwise she wouldn't be accepting my offers to go on dates, but i can't help but feel my @ss is gonna end up in the "friendszone" if I don't get on the ball.
Yet, it's apparent to me from being around her she isn't just gonna let me jump her bones after a few dates. Which is great, because if i was looking for that i wouldnt be dating her, I'd find something easier instead of spending so much time on her.

At the same time, it sucks because she isn't much of a flirt, she is too shy to maintain long eye gazing...and my normal instincts; when to make moves, etc have basically flew out the window in the midst of her shy/less-open behavior.

What do you do with shy/goody-girl types that aren't hobags?...that are hard to read.
I need tips......lol..............and i need to go do something besides type long @ss messages on the internet.......peace
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mcs

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i guess that. she sees you confident enough. hopefully funny and interesting too. what you have to build is trust. and that takes time.
 

KSoze

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mcs said:
i guess that. she sees you confident enough. hopefully funny and interesting too. what you have to build is trust. and that takes time.
That's what i figured. So i'm gonna have to take things slower than usual; build trust in such a way that she still sees me romantically and not as just a friend.
She is out of town this week, when she gets back I'm gonna take her out on another date....something where the two of us have a little more privacy...we've only been on two dates really that were "romantic", on the other two, my buddies were around.
 
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