Shy girl or not interested?

[bob2007]

Lemme start by saying this girl is probably the best looking girl I know and agreed upon by my friends. This is why I'm going through all this trouble.

I live outside NY, she lives in Toronto. I used to know her like 10 years ago in grade school, not very well but we danced a few times. Last year I found her on facebook and I was like whoa, shes so hot gotta contact her.

MSNed her twice, she was polite, but didn't seem interested, so I pretty much gave up. Talked to a friend, he was like you should be banging this girl shes that hot and lookat the guy's she's with. They're garbage, GARBAGE! are you better than garbage? Yes Rod, I am better than garbage.

So then I actually ended up having a long convo with this chick for 2 hours. It was pretty easy to get the number after that, no hesitation from her. I'm like give me your number, well hangout when I"m in town next week.

Last night, I wasn't too sure to call her or not, kinda had a cold, ended up calling her at 12a.m. (she's a nurse, I donno her hours). I let it ring twice in case shes asleep. She calls back. I'm like hi, have time to go out tomorrow? She's like sorry, working all weekend. I'm like O, ok, well, maybe next time I'm back then (my exit.. I'm usually back once a month). She's liike when're you back next time. I donno. Shes like I'll talk to you online sometime. Alright Bye.

I've initiated convos on msn 3 times, called her once. I think if she doesn't initiate, she's probably not interested.

 

[stand]

I didn't look at the date of this thread, but I am assuming you called her at midnight on a Friday night? Probably not a good idea. Call your booty calls @ midnight, not chicks you're actually interested in.

It's also probably not a good idea to be talking to a chick through MSN for 2 hours at a time either. I don't understand the point of that. It's so hard to gauge a girls interest through MSN/AIM.

I only talk to my close girl friends through AIM; any girl I want to bang I call or make her call me.

You have initiated enough contact imo & the ball is in her court..

 

[splinterkb]

Sorry man but it sounds like she's not interested. It sounds like it would be difficult to make something work anyways since you could only see her once a month.

Didn't you say she's with someone anyways?

One thing you could have done differently is not give up so easy.. as soon as she said she was working all weekend you pretty much ended the convo with a closer of "maybe we can hang out next time I'm in town". You could have atleast talked to her.. it would be easier to gauge her interest that way.

 

[tick37]

You called her the night before wanting to hang out with her? I suspect she told you no because she WAS busy. If not and she does like you, she knows how to play coy. There is no way a woman, who hardly knows you, will go out with the very next day. I have had girls counter my offer to go out, and I always tell them I have plans the next day whether I do or not. Your girl knows better than making last minutes plans with a guy in order to keep from looking desperate or looking like she doesn't have a life.

You should be too busy to call and ask for a date for the very next day. That has desperation written all over it. Now back off for the rest of the week and contact her after that because, otherwise, she will read you like a book. You need to let her wonder about you. Contact her out of the blue so she will be a little bit surprised. You're not in a relationship with her, so you don't have to cater to her every whim in order to get her to like you. Remember "less is more".

 

[bob2007]

Ya, my timing was really bad. Calling at midnight haha, couldnt' talk to her on the phone much since she had work the next day too, so I kept it short.

The having a cold, and the fact that my flight was delayed 12 hours really ruined things. I was only in town for 3 days. It's quite a long distance but definetly worth it cause shes so hot and really a good girl. She's not dating anyone, it was some guy she used to date.

I did tell her the previous week that I'd be dropping by. I thought the fact that she said she was sorry like twice, might've meant she might still be a bit interested. Or she would've been colder.

I definetly agree the ball's in her court now.

 

[tick37]

Well, make plans ahead of time for the next trip. Honestly, I don't think it's worth pursuing because she's so far away. It would be to your benefit to find someone local.