Shy Blondes: SOS

[kody_starr]

As in same ol' sh#t. That is, girls are staring at me like crazy, holding eye contact, repeatedly staring, yet when I try to speak to them, they can barely utter a word. It's very confusing. And very frustrating.

Went to a quieter bar, around 8-ish. Immediately, it starts up. Hot blondes are staring at me. I'm just hanging with my friends, enjoying the night out. It's pretty obvious the first blonde is into me though. She's dang near 6' tall and pretty cute too. She stares pretty obviously, and holds eye contact when I reciprocate eye contact. Later on, I walk by her, and just say hi, with a smile. She won't even speak back to me. In fact, she can't even lift her head to look at me (she's seated now).

Same thing with another blonde. She can actually talk, but can't hold eye contact at all. Her eyes are darting around in a nervous manner, or she's just looking down.

This is getting very old. I've gained some weight now, so I should be more accessible, less intimidating of a person to speak to. But it's not really happening like that.

It's very strange to note that these two girls are very much at ease talking to their male companions (unlikely to be boyfriends--zero kino and the girls are leading the guys everywhere). The first blonde is talking to a guy who is about half her size.

The second blonde is at ease talking to a guy who apparently hasn't shaved in a year and has the dental work of a caveman. I tried talking to her a second time and she completely shut me out this time.

The girls are perfectly at ease with these guys yet they can't even lift their heads to talk to me.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Sounds like my ex...shy blonde...once I got through to her it was so hot to bang her because she's unleash a whole new side.

 

[legolas]

They seem to be intimidated by you somehow. Are you too tall? Do you dress extravagantly? Are you really good looking? You could be increasing your value so much that these girls think you're unapproachable. Maybe you should tone it down, whatever you're doing, tone down your clothes, your appearance, whatever.

 

[kody_starr]

All of the above. On halloween, some random girl walked up to me, handed me a small basket of candy. She did the same for the bouncer, then left. She couldn't even look me in the eye, or say anything! And her head was bowed down and her eyes downcast the entire time. I saw her again a few minutes later and she refused to even acknowledge me!

Girls are soooo shy!

 

[legolas]

Of course they are shy, especially with a high-value guy such as you. This forum keeps beating onto men that they need to raise their value when in reality they just need to act normal and girls will like them more. If you want these girls to talk to you, you need to tone it down. You can't tone down your height obviously, but tone down your clothing and your attitude. They will start to come to you. Imagine if you were Brad Pitt and you approached them. They will start to get scared sh*tless, their face will flush and their heart will beat very fast. I've seen it man. That's all I can tell you. Forget peacocking and start to project a warmer, friendlier attitude. You may not believe me, but try it for a day. After all what you're doing now is not working.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

A warm and friendly attitude without straying into "Nice Guy Waters" is the way to go!

 

[Just a Shot Away]

A warm and friendly attitude without straying into "Nice Guy Waters" is the way to go!

Sounds like a tough balance man. Do you mean just trying to walk around with a smile on your face? Making eye contact with lots of people?

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Sounds like a tough balance man. Do you mean just trying to walk around with a smile on your face? Making eye contact with lots of people?

Yes, it's like that. You're positive, social, see the best in others, and are going places.

If a girl is in the picture, I do it like this: I'm nice to others while having fun with her.