Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Shut Up, Stop Posting and you may learn something.

syncmaster

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You guys are far too worried about little minute details when you don't even have the basics down. Who gives a flying fvck what time of day you call or if she flips her hair or not. Stop worrying so much. Stop asking hundreds of pointless questions. Read advice instead of asking questions that have been answered. If you have something insightful please post it but refrain from asking mundane questions that if you thought about for more than 5 mins would find an answer for.

Read, Read, Read, Read, Read... there's no quick and easy fix for this kinda thing.
If you are going to post a question that you think there might be an easy answer to, write the question out in word and save it... come back to it a few hours later and answer it as if someone else had wrote it... Belive it or not, you know more than you think. This is how you grow as a person not by getting someone to do the work for you. Stop expecting to be bottle fed. It's getting really frustrating.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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penkitten

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perhaps when we see that a newbie has posted, we should take the time and help direct them to a particular thread they need to be referenced to.
giving them a link to the bible or hall of fame doesnt really cut it.
they get to that page and either read one or two and get bored or they read them all and get too much info at one time.

lets help them learn to use the search button and what things to search for . lets help them pick out the neddles in the haystack when it comes to the older threads.

lets stop yelling " read the bible", instead lets give them a link to what in the bible /hall of fame they should be reading.

doesnt this sound like lots of fun? or at least like the big brother program?
 

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I really think we need a 'newbie' forum

I've seen some good questions on here get buried by the "What does it mean when a girl tries to touch your penis? Does it mean she likes you?" posts that only get replied by "Read the bible! retard" and nothing really ends up getting said anywhere

And, for the record, the "Nobody ever posts anything except newbie AFC questions" posts are getting almost as ald as the newbie AFC questions themselves

We really need something completely different to talk about
 

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i just dont think the administrator is going to add any new forums especially a newbie forum.
think back to your newbie days, how did you get from there to here? you got there by reading and learning and reacting to the material without being seperated.
if you are only reading and posting in the newbie area, then you will stay with that mindset.
the administrator has added new forums before and they didnt do very well, which was waste of space to him.
pretty much all the questions they have can be answered within the disscussion, highschool, or anything else areas.
we just need to do better jobs at actually guiding them to specific material we think will benifit them instead of making fun of them or yelling go read the bible.
i agree with you brother on the threads about newbie threads are lame needing to stop. they waste bandwidth space and do nothing but waste time in posting and reading and replying.

another thing is that we need to remember that not all advise is useful to everyone or applies to everyone.
if someone gives some lame advise, no one has to follow it and not all of us are going to agree with each other.
the arguing has to stop. disscussion is great to an extent, however senseless arguing or threatening someone on an internet board such as this is the stupidest thing ever.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think people should just be guided to the bible. Most of these questions are so lame that they need to take the time to read through some of the articles before posting on here. If for no other reason, to get that reality check that comes the first time reading through the ones marked must read.

I don't agree with the creation of a newbie forum, but it would be nice to see an advanced forum that's heavily moderated.
 

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Originally posted by syncmaster
You guys are far too worried about little minute details when you don't even have the basics down. Who gives a flying fvck what time of day you call or if she flips her hair or not. Stop worrying so much. Stop asking hundreds of pointless questions. Read advice instead of asking questions that have been answered. If you have something insightful please post it but refrain from asking mundane questions that if you thought about for more than 5 mins would find an answer for.

Read, Read, Read, Read, Read... there's no quick and easy fix for this kinda thing.
If you are going to post a question that you think there might be an easy answer to, write the question out in word and save it... come back to it a few hours later and answer it as if someone else had wrote it... Belive it or not, you know more than you think. This is how you grow as a person not by getting someone to do the work for you. Stop expecting to be bottle fed. It's getting really frustrating.

All you gotta do is go to the search option :D

If there were a newb board , they would all still come here .... wouldnt help out any
 

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It would be really nice if TOPICS could be ranked for effectiveness. From there, they would be sorted into revelent catagories (sarging, emotion, daily interaction, dj basics, etc)

Makes more sense to me then the bible, stuck there in the upper-right corner....alone, and even that isn't sorted from beginner to expert, it's all over the place.
 

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What the hell do you people think penkitten, wyld, myself and a few others did BEFORE there was a DJ BIBLE? ... not a rhetorical question - i actually wanna hear answers.
 
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