Shut down your FBs and be nice about it

[Huffman]

So there's 2 girls I'd been dating... and tried to ditch them both at some point. What I didn't expect is that they both said they're OK with just sex and nothing more. So I suddenly found myself f*cking two girls on the side without any sort of responsibilities

But now it's getting a bit cumbersome. One of them is driving several hours just to see me, and she wants to come over every week. The other one is more manageable but she's starting to show signs of jealousness too. So this is pretty one sided and I don't think it's healthy.

Also they're taking up alot of my free time, and while I enjoy sex, it's not a big thing for me (no pun, at least not in my case ). Actually sexing the girls is kind of hard work!

Anyway continuing like this is not going to get me ahead in life... I'm actually looking for a real girlfriend, and I'm spending too much energy on the wrong girls.

But they're both kinda nice, so how to best stop seeing them? Be less and less available? I just feel really sorry about the whole thing, first I told them that they couldn't be my girlfriend, now that I don't even want to sex them anymore? That sounds really harsh, wow.

I'm really still a nice guy at heart!
(although one who gets laid, so that's an improvement!)

 

[Suspens]

Are you some sort of a brad pitt? Super rich?

Well you are lucky.


You have no responsibility since you told them already. No reason to feel like you are a bad guy or something. Tell them you are diagnosed with HIV.

 

[Huffman]

Neither, this is actually the first time that I'm having this kind of relationship. I have to admit it feels good to brag though

 

[expos]

Anyway continuing like this is not going to get me ahead in life... I'm actually looking for a real girlfriend, and I'm spending too much energy on the wrong girls.

But they're both kinda nice, so how to best stop seeing them? Be less and less available? I just feel really sorry about the whole thing, first I told them that they couldn't be my girlfriend, now that I don't even want to sex them anymore? That sounds really harsh, wow.
(although one who gets laid, so that's an improvement!)

I've been there before. It's the lack of emotional attachment that leaves you feeling ultimately unfulfilled. I was this way post-college, I had two girls and another I was working on. I just got tired and wanted to watch football on Saturdays and drink beer and watch movies with my friends later that day then prepping for "dates" at Applebee's and cleaning my apartment so they could come over. :yawn:

They will not fault you for being honest and telling them how you feel. Man up and do it and don't feel bad. Those girls will be fine without you because a girl always can get laid anytime she wants and fine someone else to drag through a relationship.

 

[Eternal_water]

Send them my way.

 

[Huffman]

Those girls will be fine without you because a girl always can get laid anytime she wants and fine someone else to drag through a relationship.

Yeah, I just got a little full of myself... of course they'll be fine, you're right
Have to admit it feels good to call a girl over when you're feeling down. Now I know why girls get orbiters! Thanks for your reply.

 

[El Payaso]

Give them my phone number. I'll gladly take that burden off your hands.