"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

shut down major issue

saber101

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 1, 2005
Messages
138
Reaction score
0
Okay Ive got a major problem. I think some people think im annoying. Today I was in the library and I saw a table with a bunch of people from my math class. So I went and sat down. And like a minute and a half later three quarters of them just left the table. Later that period, I went to sit down with this one chick who was talking to me during English, and I told her we'd talk later (cuz i was trying to concentrate). So I sat down with her and she was just like "you see that door. USE IT." I feel like my actions caused this somehow. Anyways i need some guidance from all you Djs.
 
Last edited:

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Docs

Banned
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
3,571
Reaction score
56
Location
Kingston, Can-a-duh
Burnnn! :crackup:

Yeah...you don't have that cool factor. Figure out why (even ask them why you aren't cool (and hold in the inner baby)), and change it. It might be more then one thing, or just one thing. Maybe your pants are too small, you have a evil laugh or your hand is too big. People are superficial. :up:
 

saber101

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 1, 2005
Messages
138
Reaction score
0
Docs said:
Burnnn! :crackup:

Yeah...you don't have that cool factor. Figure out why (even ask them why you aren't cool (and hold in the inner baby)), and change it. It might be more then one thing, or just one thing. Maybe your pants are too small, you have a evil laugh or your hand is too big. People are superficial. :up:
Ugh! How do I gain this cool factor. I'm usually not shy to go up and talk to ppl (out of class cuz im a nerd and listen in class). I just dont know what it is
 

Docs

Banned
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
3,571
Reaction score
56
Location
Kingston, Can-a-duh
That's why you might have to ASK them why, or figure it out. Do you wear bad looking classes, have a fro, wear outdated/small clothes, you have a funny voice, you can't shut up, you say stupid things, you talk back to people?

It's things like that that annoy people, or give them a reason to laugh/pick/uncoolize you.

:up:
 
Top