Shows High IL in person...but never wants to meet up?

[teddy]

So I see this girl occasionally, maybe once a month, at parties. She's kind of been on the periphery of things for me, mainly because she's quite a bit younger than me (she's a college freshman). She's ramped up attraction signals every time I've met her, gradually increasing them to the point where last time we came across each other, she spent the whole time seeking me out, sitting next to me when I initially sat on the other side of the room, following me to different rooms, play tickling/wrestling.

In addition, I was originally supposed to move in a few months, but that got delayed for a year, so she told me she heard that I was staying for another year. I kind of laughed it off saying yeah, it's a bummer, but she said "well, it's good for me."

But here's the weird thing: she never is willing to meet up outside of these parties. I'll never hear from her texting wise (though if I initiate, she'll respond within 1-2 minutes) and if I text her to meet up, it'll never actually happen.

So....I don't get it. What's going on? I haven't actually communicated with her since the last party, during which she practically followed me everywhere, but....I mean, I've kind of dealt with women like this before. The types with a lot of guy friends (because they're hot) and all that. Her comment about me staying though, has got me thinking, along with how surprisingly receptive she was to my touch and how she reciprocated it.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Princess is in another castle. She throws you breadcrumbs to keep you orbiting. Should've ramped up the game the first time or two you saw her instead of becoming a dude she sees at parties sometimes and that's it. Blow her off at the next party and see what happends.

 

[teddy]

Princess is in another castle. She throws you breadcrumbs to keep you orbiting. Should've ramped up the game the first time or two you saw her instead of becoming a dude she sees at parties sometimes and that's it. Blow her off at the next party and see what happends.

Yeah, like I said, she was mostly on my periphery those first couple times. Girls that young aren't really on my radar for whatever reason. I mean, she's 18/19, I'm 25.

Also, I have never gone out of my way to talk to her. At every party I'll purposefully never talk to her; it's always her who ends up coming up to me and initiating, touching me, etc.

But yeah, I see what you mean; I'm afraid I'm just "that guy". So blow her off completely? Even if she comes up to me and starts touching and all that? All that play wrestling stuff was something new and she was really enjoying it.

 

[El Payaso]

Attention wh0re.

 

[IndeedSir]

^ Yep. It sounds like you haven't grabbed your balls and gone for it at the parties you've seen her at. Easiest way to find out is to go for it. Not sure why she'd not hang out with you outside of parties though. Bit strange. That said, I'm a fair few years out of that age range so wtf do I know about it anymore.

EDIT: For clarification, I think she is probably just enjoying your attention at the parties. That really doesn't mean she wants to **** you. Doesn't mean she doesn't though, either. Take action.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Yeah, like I said, she was mostly on my periphery those first couple times. Girls that young aren't really on my radar for whatever reason. I mean, she's 18/19, I'm 25.

Also, I have never gone out of my way to talk to her. At every party I'll purposefully never talk to her; it's always her who ends up coming up to me and initiating, touching me, etc.

But yeah, I see what you mean; I'm afraid I'm just "that guy". So blow her off completely? Even if she comes up to me and starts touching and all that? All that play wrestling stuff was something new and she was really enjoying it.

Glad to see she initiates OP

 

[RagingBalls]

she's welcoming you to a grand entrance on her World of Bltchy games.

 

[teddy]

^ Yep. It sounds like you haven't grabbed your balls and gone for it at the parties you've seen her at. Easiest way to find out is to go for it. Not sure why she'd not hang out with you outside of parties though. Bit strange. That said, I'm a fair few years out of that age range so wtf do I know about it anymore.

EDIT: For clarification, I think she is probably just enjoying your attention at the parties. That really doesn't mean she wants to **** you. Doesn't mean she doesn't though, either. Take action.

It's not that I don't want to or scared to make the effort, it's just that it wasn't so noticeable until now. But I don't get why she wouldn't want to meet up after giving me these signals, allowing me to feel her up and stuff (and she was sober).

 

[Mr Wright]

It's not that I don't want to or scared to make the effort, it's just that it wasn't so noticeable until now. But I don't get why she wouldn't want to meet up after giving me these signals, allowing me to feel her up and stuff (and she was sober).

Attraction is fluid, she may have been into it at that moment but afterwards shes not completely sold on you. It could be one of many things.

How are you trying to initiate the meet up? Text examples

 

[teddy]

Attraction is fluid, she may have been into it at that moment but afterwards shes not completely sold on you. It could be one of many things.

How are you trying to initiate the meet up? Text examples

Kind of what I normally do: hey, I'm heading to (insert whatever), you should come along. Things like that.

It's just a strange feeling to have a woman give you all these IOIs and yet come up empty here. I've never had a girl give me IOIs upfront like this before.

 

[teddy]

And what gets me is that every time we meet at parties, I think that it has faded away with this girl, but instead her IOIs are more ramped up than the last time.

 

[Mr Wright]

Kind of what I normally do: hey, I'm heading to (insert whatever), you should come along. Things like that.

It's just a strange feeling to have a woman give you all these IOIs and yet come up empty here. I've never had a girl give me IOIs upfront like this before.

If you want your answer, stop the gamey stuff and be straight up, that way she can't brush it off without outright rejecting you.

I'd say something like: Hey, always see you at parties, would like to get to know you without all the distractions. Let's go for (date of your choosing), what day's good for you?

If she's into you, she will give you a day.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

The "High Interest" in person is a mirage at best. I don't follow words, I follow actions, and her actions aren't consistent. Reality check: she likes the attention you give her at parties, but doesn't see you as someone she'd actually like to date. In essence, you are her "party beau," nothing more. If that wasn't true, you'd be able to take her out and see her outside of parties. It's important to read the situation for what it is so you won't disappoint yourself when she doesn't respond to your dating request - you know you'll see her at parties so enjoy her company while you're there, then hit on other girls outside of these parties (or at them - you may find one that wants to see you beyond that).

 

[nismo-4]

High interest level my ass! Pay attention.

1. This is an attention wh0re who wants you as an orbiter when I'm not taking her into chambers.

2. Your princess is in another castle.

3. Talk to other girls in front of her.

4. Mixed signals are negative signals. Means low-no interest.

5. Judge by actions, not words. Actions clearly say I'm not f**kin' interested!

6. What would happen if she met Channing Tatum at a party and he asked to meet her outside of it? Exactly, she would climb over the North Georgia Mountains to meet him.

In short; LEAVE HER ASS ALONE! That's judge nismo's orders.

Case closed. Exit my courtroom.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I don't like to deal with mind games like this

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Also OP any luck getting laid lately? Since you said a few months ago you were still inexperienced