"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There are obviously many different types of emotions and many different circumstances in which we may feel them. Anger, sadness, love, regret...etc.

Who has thought about when it's appropriate to show them and when we'd be better off trying to keep it to ourselves?

I'm an emotional guy. I really don't like it. I wish I felt less. I hate that I feel the need to express them. Sometimes I know I should express them, as on occasion they can be used to my benefit, but sometimes judgment can get a little clouded and I can express the wrong thing at the wrong time to the wrong person.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I guess this board on a Saturday night isn't the best place to talk about a subject like this. lol
 

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You just have to toughen up.

It will help you in every area of your life.
 

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Tighten_Up said:
I guess this board on a Saturday night isn't the best place to talk about a subject like this. lol
Yeah, while you were typing that I was having a girl wipe me down after a wild 10 minutes of passion.

What was the question again?
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
You just have to toughen up.

It will help you in every area of your life.
Yeah, to some degree, but sometimes you can use your emotions to your benefit with women. You have to be able to turn it on and off. I'm just trying to determine when.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BigJimbo said:
Yeah, while you were typing that I was having a girl wipe me down after a wild 10 minutes of passion.

What was the question again?
Did you mean to say you were cleaning yourself up after a wild 30 seconds of passion alone in your bedroom?
 

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For me, my rule would be show as many positive emotions as possible, and try to hide any negative emotions you feel (anger, jealousy etc). You can still punish girls when appropriate (by withdrawing attention for example), but you should try to remain in control at all times. Noone wants to be around people who come across as negative.
 
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