"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There are obviously many different types of emotions and many different circumstances in which we may feel them. Anger, sadness, love, regret...etc.

Who has thought about when it's appropriate to show them and when we'd be better off trying to keep it to ourselves?

I'm an emotional guy. I really don't like it. I wish I felt less. I hate that I feel the need to express them. Sometimes I know I should express them, as on occasion they can be used to my benefit, but sometimes judgment can get a little clouded and I can express the wrong thing at the wrong time to the wrong person.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I guess this board on a Saturday night isn't the best place to talk about a subject like this. lol
 

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You just have to toughen up.

It will help you in every area of your life.
 

BigJimbo

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Tighten_Up said:
I guess this board on a Saturday night isn't the best place to talk about a subject like this. lol
Yeah, while you were typing that I was having a girl wipe me down after a wild 10 minutes of passion.

What was the question again?
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
You just have to toughen up.

It will help you in every area of your life.
Yeah, to some degree, but sometimes you can use your emotions to your benefit with women. You have to be able to turn it on and off. I'm just trying to determine when.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BigJimbo said:
Yeah, while you were typing that I was having a girl wipe me down after a wild 10 minutes of passion.

What was the question again?
Did you mean to say you were cleaning yourself up after a wild 30 seconds of passion alone in your bedroom?
 

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For me, my rule would be show as many positive emotions as possible, and try to hide any negative emotions you feel (anger, jealousy etc). You can still punish girls when appropriate (by withdrawing attention for example), but you should try to remain in control at all times. Noone wants to be around people who come across as negative.
 
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