Show interest without being desperate/afc?

[SoSuaveDude]

I know the man in the relationship should always lead the overall relationship, this is even the case with prospects. However, i show strong eye contact, and display high energy and indifference around women. I believe the relationship should require mutual effort from the male and female. However are there girls who expect and love for guys to chase them and initiate all conversation via phone? My main concern is that they may believe that im not interested enough. I will say that there is normally heavy (3 second +) eye contact exchanged with these girls whenever we're in personal contact. They're also a multitude of pupil dilation. But they seem to get mad when i dnt text them throughout the week WTF! how can i make them text me while letting them know im interested and without being desperate? Or do these cases seem like teases and ultimately a waste of time?

P.s. showing i care = handing my balls over/scaring her away right?

Thanks for the Help in advance!

 

[Chickfight]

Show her affection and that you want her and you're pursuing her, but you don't NEED her and are willing to walk away and never look back.
Sometimes girls are pretty insecure and if you don't show enough interest, they might ditch you, rather than risk losing face.

Also, don't text, call. If they tell you to text, say you prefer calling.
Another thing is you should actually BE indifferent and not just act that way. I mean who notices "pupil dilation"?. The mentality you should have is that ALL girls are naturally attracted to you. No matter what their body language is.

 

[Chickfight]

double post

 

[Jeffst1980]

Just posted this, it might help: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=181534

Go ahead and show interest- they're not going to chase you if they're attractive AND sane. Expect to lead EVERY interaction until a relationship is established- that means setting up meets, initiating conversations, etc. If you act too aloof they are going to lose interest.

 

[kelv]

Im having a major headache in this too. I always have this mindset that showing interest is from a weak guy kind of view.
I had women interested in me when I didn’t cared they existed. But when I found women I liked, I showed interests and damn u guessed it, they either said they had someone else in mind, treat me as friend, whatever **** excuse they can find. I think women nowadays know what they wants and they can get it easily, so they rather settle for the guys they are drooling for rather than the guys who are interested in them. Unless of cos, the guy who showed interested happened to be someone who got a great career, rich.
Pls experienced PUA help!

 

[SoSuaveDude]

bump!

 

[PapiChulo]

I settled on these:

1. attracting other women in that particular setting so that they see you could have gone for others but chose her

2. still flirting and giving IOIs now and then

3. no following around

4. no kissing asss

5. no discussing it with her acquaintances

6. and no mirroring her reactions/feelings.

That's with cute women who have rejected me and I still see them. The other thing is that they know you dig them, therefore you care anyway - it's all about the way you handle your emotions and patience.

Hot ones = aloof to make them wonder.


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