"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Show I'm not the AFC I was to her

Zapp Brannigan

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There's a girl I had Oneitius for. She was the first one I ever pursued, and I did things in a really cringe-worthy way. Pretty much gave her all the power, failed a s**t test or two, and was used for the attention/ego boost. A lot of time has passed since then, and I've changed a lot. She has seen me hitting on other girls, generally doesn't seem to care, but appeared really jealous of one. She's brought her boyfriend to some gatherings, and I'll ignore it completely, then she'll go out of her way to talk to me. Since I don't give her attention like I did, she'll pretty much take every chance she has to try and get mine. Also recently declined a s**t test of hers.

Because of all of this I really thought I made a recovery with her, that maybe she didn't see me as the AFC I was. That was until this past weekend. There was an early Labor Day get together she was at, and she kept nagging me about something the whole time. I think she thought if she kept on I'd give in, because she knows I cared about her by the I used to act. This girl is the type that has a fair share of orbiters, and a beta boyfriend she has clear power over, but is still out there shopping for d**k. Her type never really loves men on a deep level, because they've been used to male attention pretty much their whole life, and because of it are always looking for someone better no matter who they're with. Sad thing is this girl used to have a lot of depth to her, but she has changed for the worse since then.

I would love to show I'm not the AFC I was to her. Is there anything I could do to convince her of that?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What are you trying to convince for? There is no purpose. It is a stupid thing to think of and should be irrelevant by now. Move on with your life. She's irrelevant now. Don't pay her a single second of your life no matter how much she bags or begs. Just say, I have some rentals to return. Period.
 

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dk1990S111 said:
^ what he said, if you arent an AFC anymore you will not give a $hit what she thinks
i second this. the fact that you wanna "show her" or "prove something to her" means you are still AFC. the moment you don't give a shyte is the moment you are no longer AFC. sorry to disappoint. :(
 

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**** this *****! Go out and find hotter chicks. You'll forget about this attention ***** when that happens.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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El Payaso said:
What are you trying to convince for? There is no purpose. It is a stupid thing to think of and should be irrelevant by now. Move on with your life. She's irrelevant now. Don't pay her a single second of your life no matter how much she bags or begs. Just say, I have some rentals to return. Period.

Excellent advise.
 

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Zapp Brannigan said:
There's a girl I had Oneitius for. She was the first one I ever pursued, and I did things in a really cringe-worthy way. Pretty much gave her all the power, failed a s**t test or two, and was used for the attention/ego boost. A lot of time has passed since then, and I've changed a lot. She has seen me hitting on other girls, generally doesn't seem to care, but appeared really jealous of one. She's brought her boyfriend to some gatherings, and I'll ignore it completely, then she'll go out of her way to talk to me. Since I don't give her attention like I did, she'll pretty much take every chance she has to try and get mine. Also recently declined a s**t test of hers.

Because of all of this I really thought I made a recovery with her, that maybe she didn't see me as the AFC I was. That was until this past weekend. There was an early Labor Day get together she was at, and she kept nagging me about something the whole time. I think she thought if she kept on I'd give in, because she knows I cared about her by the I used to act. This girl is the type that has a fair share of orbiters, and a beta boyfriend she has clear power over, but is still out there shopping for d**k. Her type never really loves men on a deep level, because they've been used to male attention pretty much their whole life, and because of it are always looking for someone better no matter who they're with. Sad thing is this girl used to have a lot of depth to her, but she has changed for the worse since then.

I would love to show I'm not the AFC I was to her. Is there anything I could do to convince her of that?
D!ckcarousellium
A condition that affects women and causes a gradual loss of self-respect and the urge to frequently change sexual partners without a logical reason up to a point of disregarding a potential healthy relationship. D!ckcarousellium usually affects women between the ages of 18-30 and it is believed that 90% of women will spontaneously develop D!ckcarousellium at their early twenties.

Although the cause of the condition is unknown, it is believed that D!ckcarousellium has a close co-relation to the following:
- Increased usage of social media and cellular devices
- Father issues or lack of a proper fatherly figure

Up until today there's no known cure for D!ckcarousellium, the condition usually passes by it's own although in 95% of cases it leaves a permanent damage.
 

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I can see how you'd be AFC if you were trying to prove something to her and I can understand where you're coming from on that. However, if you're doing it to prove something to yourself, I think this is different. Whatever you do, don't give this girl the time of day. Let her continue her pathetic patterns and live an unfulfilling life while you continue on the road to be a better man.
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
D!ckcarousellium
A condition that affects women and causes a gradual loss of self-respect and the urge to frequently change sexual partners without a logical reason up to a point of disregarding a potential healthy relationship. D!ckcarousellium usually affects women between the ages of 18-30 and it is believed that 90% of women will spontaneously develop D!ckcarousellium at their early twenties.

Although the cause of the condition is unknown, it is believed that D!ckcarousellium has a close co-relation to the following:
- Increased usage of social media and cellular devices
- Father issues or lack of a proper fatherly figure

Up until today there's no known cure for D!ckcarousellium, the condition usually passes by it's own although in 95% of cases it leaves a permanent damage.
Haha that's spot on
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Zapp Brannigan

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gov87 said:
I can see how you'd be AFC if you were trying to prove something to her and I can understand where you're coming from on that. However, if you're doing it to prove something to yourself, I think this is different. Whatever you do, don't give this girl the time of day. Let her continue her pathetic patterns and live an unfulfilling life while you continue on the road to be a better man.
Thanks for the advice, and understanding. I want to show I'm not an AFC to prove to myself that I've changed. At places I don't see this girl there's a difference, but since she still seems to see me as an AFC things feel the same at where I know her. Will never give her the time of day, just want to show I've changed, because the way she did things does bother me.
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
D!ckcarousellium
A condition that affects women and causes a gradual loss of self-respect and the urge to frequently change sexual partners without a logical reason up to a point of disregarding a potential healthy relationship. D!ckcarousellium usually affects women between the ages of 18-30 and it is believed that 90% of women will spontaneously develop D!ckcarousellium at their early twenties.

Although the cause of the condition is unknown, it is believed that D!ckcarousellium has a close co-relation to the following:
- Increased usage of social media and cellular devices
- Father issues or lack of a proper fatherly figure

Up until today there's no known cure for D!ckcarousellium, the condition usually passes by it's own although in 95% of cases it leaves a permanent damage.
Excellent post. Definitely sounds like her.
 
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