I know there's all this talk about "jerk over the nice guy" but in high school, shouldn't you be nice to the girl, at least most of the time. That doesn't mean not teasing her or letting her step all over you, but don't they usually like that sense of security (since they're just starting to date and everything...)?
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Sexy_Malibu
Master Don Juan
There's a fine line between 'nice guy' and 'AFC'. No girl wants to date a TOTAL prick, but you do want to try to walk that line carefully.
TonyTheTigerOI
Master Don Juan
You should be a jerk because it is the EASIEST way to be a challenge. Its a baby step into the world of seduction and being a don juan. Many great seducers are nice to women... but youve gotta crawl before you can walk. Read the bible and practice making yourself desirable to women before you try and create attraction while being "nice."
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
Why take the easy route when you can do so much better? Try finding the right balance between jerk and nice guy. Sometimes you will be too much of a jerk. Other times you will slip into the land of pushovers. But you will bounce back and know the fine line between both worlds. Then you'll be set. There isn't one correct answer. It's all about reading what others have written here, going out, then changing what you read so it fits you. Good luck.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Of course. A "nice guy" is a misnomer - the "nice guy AFC" isn't really nice at all - he's just trying to be nice in a manipulative way in order to get some. Being nice just for the sake of being nice is the best way to go about it.
You should not focus on being a jerk to other people but focus on being nice to yourself. It depends if they deserve it. If you want to be challange think "I can do better than you but I like your personality so Im staying with you. If you start treating me bad then I can leave easily". Being challange is not a technique its attitude. Be nice as a reward, be mean as a punishment.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
a true nice guy would not tease a girl, so when you said a nice guy but still teasing, you contridict yourself. This shows you have to be a mix, because you must tease them, its great to do but you do not want to be cruel.
You know what, i was nice, i did not get girls. Now im an arseh0le (at least ******dly) and they all fling themselves at me, they get hurt and i dont like it. The more you warn them/show a little humanity the more encouraged they get. And do you know what else, i like being able to speak my mind and even more to make up bad sh1t because for so long I was sickly sweet. Now i alternate between the two; sacharine sweet and tear JERKingly harsh.
Being horrible works, but its not how you want to feel.
Being horrible works, but its not how you want to feel.
Be nice. However, dont be "overly nice". Nothing to the EXTREME is good. Nothing. Be nice. Girls, i think, find it sweet. But don't be her b1tch. Play around with her. For eg. if she asks you to do her a favor. Dont just run to her and accept the favor...play it cool
Err i can explain if you dont understand what i mean...i just gtg...so, yeah..
Err i can explain if you dont understand what i mean...i just gtg...so, yeah..
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
I don't see what's so hard about this. Be nice. Do not be a doormat. What's a doormat? You go to great lengths to do something for her. If you're working on a big project and she wants you to fetch another assignment for her or get a soda for her, you're a doormat if you say yes. Just tell her you're working on a project and she's gotta wait in a pleasant, but not supplicating way.
e.g. "Hey I'm working on a project here, so ask me later when I'm not busy. Thanks"
Notice I didn't say, "I'll get it to you later." That means you're thinking about this crap all the time. IT's her problem so she keeps track of it.
Now, what is a jerk? A jerk is when you live a block or 2 apart and you refuse to give her a ride in the rain because you're trying to be "dominant." Fvck that sh1t man. Give her the ride, but make it clear she owes you (perhaps pay part of the gas $$$?), and that you're only doing it because it's raining and no one likes to get soaked.
Unless they're naked with you in the tub.
That last comment was some C&F you can throw on top. C&F gets reeeaaallll old reeeeeeeeeeallll fvcking fast if all you say is C&F. No one will call you on it out of being courteous, but I'm just letting you know it's pretty damn annoying. Anyways, all C&F is like sprinkling on top.
Let me repeat that. Your basic attitude around everyone should be a kind, respectful, confident attitude. You obviously can't be C&F with your boss or during a business meeting, but when just chillaxin' you might wanna just sprinkle some C&F in there to COMPLIMENT you already awesome personality. Get it? Good.
e.g. "Hey I'm working on a project here, so ask me later when I'm not busy. Thanks"
Notice I didn't say, "I'll get it to you later." That means you're thinking about this crap all the time. IT's her problem so she keeps track of it.
Now, what is a jerk? A jerk is when you live a block or 2 apart and you refuse to give her a ride in the rain because you're trying to be "dominant." Fvck that sh1t man. Give her the ride, but make it clear she owes you (perhaps pay part of the gas $$$?), and that you're only doing it because it's raining and no one likes to get soaked.
Unless they're naked with you in the tub.
That last comment was some C&F you can throw on top. C&F gets reeeaaallll old reeeeeeeeeeallll fvcking fast if all you say is C&F. No one will call you on it out of being courteous, but I'm just letting you know it's pretty damn annoying. Anyways, all C&F is like sprinkling on top.
Let me repeat that. Your basic attitude around everyone should be a kind, respectful, confident attitude. You obviously can't be C&F with your boss or during a business meeting, but when just chillaxin' you might wanna just sprinkle some C&F in there to COMPLIMENT you already awesome personality. Get it? Good.