calvin20
Don Juan
I want to train my shoulders so that they get big which exercises with free weights are the best?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Shoulders
- Thread starter calvin20
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NEWBIE101
Senior Don Juan
I'll keep it nice and simple.
DB Overhead Press 3x6-10
DB Side Laterals 2x6-10
DB Bent Over Raises 2x6-10
and you can throw in three sets of 8-12 on DB Shrugs to hit those traps too.
DB Overhead Press 3x6-10
DB Side Laterals 2x6-10
DB Bent Over Raises 2x6-10
and you can throw in three sets of 8-12 on DB Shrugs to hit those traps too.
Try laterals one side at a time with cables - done properly they keep the tension on the side delt throughout the whole movement.
I would also suggest training rear delts with back - this is something I have been doing for the last six months or so and the improvement in my rear delts has been considerable. The heavy rows you should be doing for your back will hit the rear delts and after that just some bent over laterals (again I prefer cables) or use the pec deck by facing the machine with arms behind the pads and doing the movement backwards.
I would also suggest training rear delts with back - this is something I have been doing for the last six months or so and the improvement in my rear delts has been considerable. The heavy rows you should be doing for your back will hit the rear delts and after that just some bent over laterals (again I prefer cables) or use the pec deck by facing the machine with arms behind the pads and doing the movement backwards.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
enkai
Senior Don Juan
howabout...training your rotator cuff so you in the long run you don't tear it so you can lift well into your old age..if you do tear it you wont ever lift the same again, besides if you do train it, it'll make your bench, shoulders, chest, everything grow from being able to push more weight 