should you when you don't wanna?

[thatguyinaviators]

ok...so i'm in an LTR ...for like ...a year...but i just recently got brought into a new social circle so these new people don't know a whole lot about me or my life. So my g/f is out of town this week and last night i'm getting off of work and i run into this girl from the new circle and we get to talking about some parties and stuff happening next week and then she's talking about how she's craving this coffee shop that's in town.........and in any normal social situation, this should be my cue to say "oh yah...that sounds great...wanna head over there?" ..........but i dropped the ball because i didn't really want to and i didn't even play it off smoothly..instead of saying something like "actually i dont' care for that place too much but if you like coffee you should try __________ they're closed right now though" ..........no...i didn't do that at all.......instead i said " oh....yah that sounds pretty good....."..(insert brief moment of silence...) then the conversation wound down and i went home.

I got thrown off guard and now i'm thinking maybe i should have just gone but the truth is is that i didn't want to. I didn't like the idea of hanging out on a one on one basis with this other chic (evn though i do think she's cool and she's pretty good looking).........i guess there's no question to my post...just an experience that could have been handled better....thoughts...questions?

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Who Cares!


You are caring way too much about what happen and what she is thinking.

My man, You have a GF!!

I'll say it again,

You have a GF!!

So who cares if you didn't do your normal routine when opportunities like that arise or if you played it off smooth? It doesn't matter. You have a GF!!

 

[thatguyinaviators]

^^^
well yes....i know...and that's a valid point...in fact it's my point. It's not her interest level in me that i'm really worried about...........it was me behaving in a socially unnacceptable (the way i see it anyway) manner. I wanted to gracefully get out of that situation and i didn't do that........instead i created a moment of awkwardness for mysef and the other person involved.

The thread is really an example of what NOT to do. I should have suggested another place because that A. educates the person i'm talking B. gracefully declines the subtle request C. gives the conversation (an myself) an out

she'll find out that i have a girlfriend eventually anyway and then know why i'm not out with other girls all the time and it'll work itself out......but there's an etiquette that i try to hold myself too in social interactions (especially around people i've just met and don't know very well)