"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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should you tell her?

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hi there

im 19 years old, and still a virgin
would it be best if i told a girl i was a virgin before losing it, or just keep it to myself?

and also, if i should tell her, when would be the best/appropriate time to

would the answer be different depending on the situation (for example, if you've known the girl 6 months or if it's someone you met a week ago)

thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She'll know if your a virgin if she's not one herself. USUALLY guys don't last long their first time or even second and third times, but after some training (lots of sex) you get better and last longer. Don't feel bad if you get in, get off, and get out within 3 minutes.

Back to the question at hand. I've never been in a situation were a girl really cared about me being a virgin so I never told the first one.
 
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ok cheers. is there anything you can do to make yourself last longer?

i mean, if the girls pretty cool and i wanna see her again, i wouldn't wanna mess it up

if i told her i was a virgin beforehand would it be likely to put her off or would she not see it as a big deal?

whats the average age guys first have sex anyway
feel like i should've done it by now
 
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randalll said:
ok cheers. is there anything you can do to make yourself last longer?

i mean, if the girls pretty cool and i wanna see her again, i wouldn't wanna mess it up

if i told her i was a virgin beforehand would it be likely to put her off or would she not see it as a big deal?

whats the average age guys first have sex anyway
feel like i should've done it by now
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You really have to feel your way around it. Theres exercises like kegels, but I've found what's really helped me is just knowing my own body and the other person's also. There is no right age, but 19 is not THAT old. I mean it's probably above average, but some guys are real late bloomers. You've got at least another 15 years of great sex ahead of you. I find the average range to be between 16 - 18.
 
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Drink or be nervous. When I'm nervous I last forever. My first time I lasted for ever. So usually every first time with a girl I look like a champion.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Don't tell her. She might changer her mind, as a lot of guys will go into AFC mode as soon as they get laid, and she doesn't want a clingy guy. We might not mind clingy girls due to them being virgins, but that will drive her away fast.

Might not be a bid deal to her, but she might think it is a big deal to you.
 
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