"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should you tell a girl to text you when she gets home after a date?

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like if you went on a date with some girl or if she came over to your house and then leaves, should you tell her to text you to let you know she got home okay or just not worry about it?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Nice, a simple question for once...

the answer is NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
 
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lol cool, ive done this 2ce in the past and then felt like it was a mistake. now i realize it was definitely a mistake
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lol you guys overthink things.
 
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i once texted a girl the next morning to see if she got home and she acted like a disinterested cheeky ***** about it.

learned my lesson.
 
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Ease said:
i once texted a girl the next morning to see if she got home and she acted like a disinterested cheeky ***** about it.

learned my lesson.
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are you actually saying a girl lost interest in you because you texted her asking if got home safe? interesting...
 
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IME, this is a pretty normal thing to do when out, although its usually the lady asking me to let them know I'm home safe.

However, general drunken violence & harrassment of women is a real & common problem in this part of the world & my city is about the worst in the country for it.

Even when out with friends, it is quite normal to arrange to text each other and if anyone forgets, there is usually a bit of a panic until someone can confirm they got home ok.
 
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from my experience , girls in person are polar opposites from the girl they are when they text or are on myspace/facebook .etc . i knew a girl once that acted like she loved me when we talked on aim , then in rl shed kick me and call me a loser and crap . made out with her, but still it was annoying (and at the time confusing) avoid typing at all costs
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yea i'd have to say caring about a girl is a very AFC thing to do somehow.. ?? i never got any positive reaction from finding out if she's safe from driving home unless you can be humorous about it. i would be very careful about telling her to call you, if she asks and gives you a choice just say you'lll call her. and then call her. "i'll talk to you later" is great because it could be either way.
 
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For a simple date, NO! After having sex, maybe, if very late. After she leaves YOUR house and has to drive very late, yes, ok to do.

Can't believe people actually get caught up over $hit like this, and put so much emphazis on the act rather than on the motive behind it. The fact that you do signals you are confused and not sure of yourself to do what you feel is the right thing, without worrying about wether you did the right thing.

If you two just had sex and it is time to drive home, YES, it is ok, and probably a good thing to tell her to call you. If she's leaving your house after some hot sex, and she must drive late at night/morning, then showing a little concern won't hurt you, yet it might show your caring side, in a good way.

Caring a little won't hurt you, unless you already have enough excuses for her to consider you an afc. He who has his $hit together need not worry about how he will come across when doing this. If she is having sex with you because she is already very much into you is very different than doing it because you are afraid she won't want to continue sleeping with you. If I care and mean it, I say it, as she's already into me to begin with.

It all depends on the place you are coming from. If you are using as yet another form of approval seeking and kissing up to, then, NO, don't do it. You will only come across as needy and clingy.

If you need to ask, or you think you definitely shouldn't do it, then you shouldn't be doing it. It means you are clueless, or not confortable in your own skin to not worry about how it comes across, or have some many afc tendencies that you feel the need to see yoursel emasculated by it.
 
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teacha said:
are you actually saying a girl lost interest in you because you texted her asking if got home safe? interesting...
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Clap clap clap!!! Totally right Teacha.

Ease, I've had that attitude as well :D
I think we all did, or we wouldn't be here
 
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