Should you simply find a successful man and try to spend as much time with him as possible to learn about his life?

[tesla8520]

If it's true that our influences shape who we are, you should really want to look around and see what makes others successful.

If there's a particular person who's successful with women, with his family, and in general, you should approach him, spend a few hours with him (perhaps doing the same hobby or activity), and understand what's so interesting about him that attracts others, observe his habits.

Who among us has done this?

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

I think it is important to socialize with others who not only have the degree of success in what you'd like to see in your own life, but also enjoy the same activities. Obviously, the barrier of entry for golf and club memberships can be quite steep and not everyone enjoys golf anyway. Take up private shooting ranges, archery, billiards leagues, dart tournaments, chess, etc. Heck, even motorcycles.

There's often a sentiment of "You are the 3-5 closest people who you spend time with the most often" or more commonly in my opinion "Bad company corrupts good judgement." I have coined a phrase I've yet to hear repeated "Surround yourself with the right people and a good life will almost live itself."

You never know who you're going to meet. Most of the time I try to boost someone's professional life or personal life it has been over the pool table or chess table. Occasionally it has been those who try to keep up on a run with me or try to spar/fence with me. I'm always on the lookout for mentors, but lately I've found more mentees than mentors. Time has that affect on people I guess. Hopefully that means I've been playing my cards well. We'll see. heh