Should you show your emotions?

[Groverz]

Should you show a girl or tell them about emotions like saying you're lonely or you want to cuddle ect? I know we all have emotions but some of the softer ones I feel people look down on as weakness. Especially if you are just getting to know a girl.

 

[Yewki]

Showing some emotion is fine, just don't be needy and insecure.

 

[RangerMIke]

You can not help but show emotions, you can't hid this from women. Just don't vomit your emotions all over her. If you are interested in her she will know, if you don't like her she will know this too. If you are angry, sad, happy, name-it, the longer you know a women the better she gets at reading you. I know it sucks, but there it is.

What you don't do is talk about them. What women really like is when you can demonstrate that you can control your emotions. If you can control your emotions and act appropriately regardless of how you feel, women will be attracted to you because then she will believe she is free to feel her emotions and respond to it, and you will have everything under control.

 

[Atom Smasher]

RangerMike hit the nail on the head. There's nothing wrong with emotion, but don't verbalize it. Rather, act upon it. Verbalizing emotion is not attractive, usually (there could be rare, specific exceptions. I repeat... RARE).

NEVER say you're lonely. Either keep quiet about that or state that you're enjoying finding new friends or something similar. I would avoid the use of the word, "cuddle" (lord, I hate that word coming from a man), but instead just do it. In that case you just draw her close to you with intent and just do it.

The less a man verbalizes emotion, the better, unless he understands the art of influence and can leverage those verbalizations to his advantage. That's advanced stuff, though. It's best to steer clear. ACTION, not verbalization.

Be a mystery... be formless.

 

[logicallefty]

Agreed with Atom Smasher and RangerMike. Women will attempt to drive you to corners where you show your emotions, but never let them get you there. This is one of the big root failures of AFCs, etc. The woman pulls him down her river of emotional slime right into emotional Zuul, and he follows right along because he doesn't know better.. Experience will overcome this.

I've had women tell me "You are an interesting guy Lefty, sometimes I can't quite figure you out". That's where I like to be. I sometimes respond "I am a man of many mysteries, if you figure me out you could probably sell the secret and get rich.." or "I am the second most interesting man in the world". And when they ask "Who is the most interesting?" Respond "Well, duhh, get with it the times woman... the guy in the beer commercial of course! everyone knows that".

 

[Atom Smasher]

LOL on the beer commercial. Good one.

I concur that it's important to never let a woman pull you down into emotionalism. It's her perverse way to see if you're stronger than she or not. If a man succumbs he becomes "more like her" in her eyes. She wants a rock of strength to lean on, the exact opposite of what she is. Women should always see their man as bigger, stronger, higher value than she. This is the core of attraction for a woman. She needs and craves someone better than she is.

 

[RangerMIke]

One more thing. The only time you want to communicate emotionally with women is when you are trying to build rapport... right in the beginning. But you should NEVER, use words like 'happy', 'sad', 'lonely'.... these words are meaningless in emotional communication, watch politicians that are really good at this, and preachers as well, good salesmen do this too.

Connect emotionally though descriptive analogy. Instead of saying "I'm happy." say "I fell like Christmas morning when I was 10!" But after you build rapport and she likes you and is going out with you and sleeping with you , knock off all the mushy stuff. If you women says I live you, look at her, smile and say "Well get you pretty little @ss over here and prove it." Never get into the habit of saying "I love you.", back as an automated response, you keep that in your back pocket and pull it out when you know it's going to have the biggest impact, and do it when she is not expecting it.

 

[El Payaso]

No.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Atom nailed it. Don't ever say you're lonely, that just puts her in an awkward situation and she may interpret that as no one wants to be around you, so why should she?

Also never call it "cuddling," and more importantly, don't ask her. Grab her and just do it, because you're a man who takes action and who wants to get close to a female.