Should you search for LTR before age 20? 25?

[jebach123]

Why yes? Why not? Share your experiences both bad and good.

 

[bigneil]

You don't "search for a Long Term Relationship". That would imply asking a girl for a commitment.

You seek self improvement until you eventually are so awesome that women fall at your feet when you walk in the room, and then you choose the best one and she usually asks for a commitment after a few months.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

No age rule. Just do it when you want to.

 

[BeTheChange]

I don't think there is anything necessarily bad about getting into LTR's early. That's what I did, and it was good experience. Though, I wish I had done that game-aware, with resources such as this to help me figure things out.

I think the hazard is that a young man might take the relationship seriously - and have it effect his school, career, or hold him back mentally.

So, I think it's best that younger men don't take their early relationships very seriously at all.

This. I count myself lucky to have had an extremely educational 3 year LTR before the age of 30. Some marriages last less time than that. Truth is, you learn a lot more about yourself in an LTR, than the opposite. The worst you have to contend with when spinning flakes is flakiness and escalation.

Much easier to develop a thick skin against rejection and next plates that misbehave than to manage an LTR with a hot, attractive women, where you pretty much have to have iron balls 24/7. To keep the best women in a perpetual state of attraction you have to BE game.

Young guys (or men in general) shouldn't be seeking out LTRs, but if a hottie keeps you interested and wants commitment, then if it's something you want go for it, as long as it something you benefit from.

LTRs are great, provided you don't compromise yourself or your long term goals. Don't let any woman keep you from seeing the bigger picture.

 

[bigneil]

Of course we don't look back and regret f*cking some girl 200 times, but if some of us had LTR's in our 20's it's because women chose us back then, not because we went "seeking LTRs".

 

[bigneil]

I think the sad reality is, we went from a society that seeks marriage to one big orgy.

So to fight fire with fire, after perhaps my best date of my life, I still asked out 4 girls this week.