"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should you let her win?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Coolage

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anything like that I hold it close enough so that she "could" win but just dominate the finish.

That was she doesn't feel demoralized and that way you don't lose.
 

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If you can win, do so. But dont ambush the poor girl in the process.

Example: If you're playing basketball, do youself a favor and dont dunk in her face and then say "Took you to school, b1tch".
 

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Just make it fun and "cute". Girls usually don't care about winning, it's just for fun. That means, if you're taking it all seriously then you look like an ass.
 

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haha dont let her win man...might start a chain reaction where she wants to win in everything else too. Dont step all over her face with your victory at anything, just be cool and dont loose.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Looks like I didn't do any of that correctly. From the story I told before with the girl I played with and never heard from again, I did everything but dunk in her face and that was because I was partially hurt haha. I'll remember that one next time...
 

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Some sports are easier than others in this regard. For example, if you go bowling, I would say go all out. Its more of a skill game and people with talent are impressive, in all facets of life.

In like a basketball game, I would stick to trying to rain long jumpers. You don't really want to back her into the post or push her around on the glass, unless you are playing a chick who is a serious player.

I guess the rule should be that if you are going to beat a girl, make it more of a finesse/skill matter and not an exibition of your size/strength/speed advantages.
 

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snintel got it

Yeah, that's exactly how to do it: just make it fun. Strange thing is, when I'm playing pool, sometimes the "looseness" makes me play better. One time not long ago, I was playing pool with this one gal, and just pulled off the most amazing shots: extreme English to curve a ball around another that was slightly in the way; jumping over a ball that was blocking my shot, etc. Looked like a fuggin' pro: way, way above my typical game.

But it was all in fun, making jokes about "lucking out," and all that, which made it look even worse, kinda C+F, in a way.
 

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I usually give girl pointers which open doors wide for serious kino! When playing pool, you stand behind her and show her how to hold the cue or what spot on the ball to strike. I usually crack a few C&F jokes like "You're holding it like a mop" or something along those lines. As for winning, this is not a bloody competition! The whole point of the date is to have fun and get to know her as well as initiate kino. I never think "Whoa I should slow down or I might win and make her feel bad"
 

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I say win normally, but there are few instances where losing can work to your advantage. I always tell girls I am the master at air-hockey... a game based primarily on hitting the puck so many times it eventually goes in, and also a game I really suck at. I keep the game close, but if she wins, I let her know that it was legit (even if it wasn't) and use it as an ongoing thread in our conversations. I play kindof irritated that I was beat by a girl, but she is always smiling and teasing me. It is like giving her ammo to give you crap about as you will always be teasing her. It gives her a default if she is uncreative. It also allows you to tackle her and tickle/whatever after she "insults" you on beating you. Can break the touch berrier quickly if it hasn't been done before. Eventually I say that air-hockey is the only thing she is good at, to which I usually get tongue raped. The rest is behind closed doors. My two cent, keep the change.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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allow your enemy to think they are winning and when you are assured of completely your abilities, you crush them at the first sign of their overconfidence!!!
 

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I would never give a loss in anything. snintel, you don't have to take it seriously to beat a girl at anything.


-off topic-
Air hockey is a skill game. It's all about control.
 
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