should you delete a pof girl from bbm/favorites before she does?

[pete101]

well u guys were right, she wasn't that interested with the 'i'll let u know' scenario and it didn't help matters that i caved in yesterday and asked her a question. she responded, was hoping to build some rapport but got impatient and told her to come meet me.. she didn't see the message till this morning and just completely ignores that part of the message and asks me what im getting up to on my day off work.

screams of attention wh0re.. 1 who ignores the important aspects of the convo. it's strange though cos even last week it appeared she had some interest with the i'll let u know but its clear she's just moved onto someone else when she realised i wasn't as of high value as she thought only cos i told her exactly what i was doing last week and didn't infer it was with girls.

anyway i asked her to meet up today later on and was a bit c0cky about it saying that i wouldn't want her to miss out and some other pretty girl will take her place. i think at this point stuff like this doesn't work when she already suspects i dont have other girls in the pipeline even tho i do have a date set up for tomorrow.

anyhow, we swapped BBM's and she added me to her favorites. should i delete her from both or will i just look petty?

as much as i say i dont care, it bothers me.. but if she's not interested there's nothing i can do however i dont want her to think she's affected me and i'm petty. is it better i delete her before she deletes me?

 

[SgtSplacker]

I have the motto of never cutting communications with any women unless she is a completely useless total basket case that I have no intention of touching sexually. I kinda made up a system where I categorize women as "Beginning of night" or Middle of the night" or "End of the night" Where I put a woman depends on her value to me. Beginning of the night means I am willing to begin the night with her so the evening is kinda tailored to us first and foremost. Middle of the night shes just basically meeting me somewhere with other people. Or maybe some other plans fell through so I may call her with more of a spontanious vibe a little later in the evening. End of the night is just a booty call type thing. A call after midnight for a couple drinks maybe a smoke. Initial phone conversation may turn into "so what are you doing? I feel like doing something this late, am I crazy?" kinda feel her out from there maybe motivate her a bit to go somewhere with me. I learned never to unfriend anyone unless they are just totally disruptive, and a total loss totally useless to you completely...

 

[Iceberg]

I have the motto of never cutting communications with any women unless she is a completely useless total basket case that I have no intention of touching sexually. I kinda made up a system where I categorize women as "Beginning of night" or Middle of the night" or "End of the night" Where I put a woman depends on her value to me. Beginning of the night means I am willing to begin the night with her so the evening is kinda tailored to us first and foremost. Middle of the night shes just basically meeting me somewhere with other people. Or maybe some other plans fell through so I may call her with more of a spontanious vibe a little later in the evening. End of the night is just a booty call type thing. A call after midnight for a couple drinks maybe a smoke. Initial phone conversation may turn into "so what are you doing? I feel like doing something this late, am I crazy?" kinda feel her out from there maybe motivate her a bit to go somewhere with me. I learned never to unfriend anyone unless they are just totally disruptive, and a total loss totally useless to you completely...

That's a great way to look at it. Treat it like a business...keep the contact, just in case it may be useful in the future.

Although in pete's case, I definitely wouldn't put any effort into this girl. She's just looking for attention.

I've never had things go from online-to-BBM though. Try to avoid that. The goal is online-to-real life. Any other channels of communication are just a waste of time with a girl you've never even met. It's like "Hey, I wont meet you yet, but I'm ready to go from sending emails to sending BBM messages...".

Summary: This girl is a waste. But as a rule, try not to get emotional and mad.

 

[pete101]

That's a great way to look at it. Treat it like a business...keep the contact, just in case it may be useful in the future.

Although in pete's case, I definitely wouldn't put any effort into this girl. She's just looking for attention.

I've never had things go from online-to-BBM though. Try to avoid that. The goal is online-to-real life. Any other channels of communication are just a waste of time with a girl you've never even met. It's like "Hey, I wont meet you yet, but I'm ready to go from sending emails to sending BBM messages...".

Summary: This girl is a waste. But as a rule, try not to get emotional and mad.

yeah the reason i got the bbm was i went for the number originally (but in the past with online women they've had stalkers before so are reluctant to give it so the bbm is kind of an easier way for me to contact them in real time if we meet for a date) my phone game is the weakest so really i dont wanna talk to them on the phone before the meet except if i cant find them where we meet.

but i hear ya, i think she's a waste of time i dont know i was too c+f in my last msg and i think she's out shopping for her halloween costume cos she;s addicted to pof and has been barely on it the past 2 days and mentioned what she bought which explains what she's been doing.

anyway i just went over the top, i dont know what you think:

i wrote

'ahh wouldnt you like to know.. (she asked me what i was doing on my day off)
i have a few things planned, people to see, things to do..possibly even quickly meet a certain attractive female from POF haha. i want to make the most of my day off cos i dont usually get time.

lets meet up this afternoon/evening hows 6pm?

i wouldnt want you to miss out on seeing me and have some other stylish pretty girl take your place. haha. lets just meet up for an hour or so i dont know if i'll like u when i meet you but im sure you're up to the challenge of convincing me haha. i'm kidding. i'm sure i'll find you quite alluring.'

i think i came across way too arrogant with no justification for it, i was just p1ssed she completely sidestepped my suggestion to meet up yesterday but she only saw the msg this morning so i knew it was an auto matic rejection.

at this point i was furious that's why i wrote what i wrote above but it must have come across as desperate and available maybe esp seeing as i originally tried seeing her over the weekend and broke the NC rule of waiting for her to contact me.. im not patient with this online chicks, it takes way too much time and effort when i could be out looking for plates in the real world.

anyway she didn't reply to my msg and she usually applies immediately (big sign of an attention wh0re), that's why im not sure whether to delete her from bbm and unfavorite her on my POF (i haven't add anyone to favorites on POF for the record, i'm on hers. she added me after saying for us to postpone our meet.. i dont know if she did that cos she felt i was gona walk away and she was tryna keep me interested.. im cynical so i assume the negative cos end of the day if i was her favorite then she would meet me)