should you bother replying to flakey texts that have how are u? at the end

[drift king]

i noticed i will get these a lot with low interest girls. i'll set up a date by text suggesting a time to meet. i dont get a response, then few days later i'll get a 'hey sorry i cant do blah blah, im busy. how are you?'

i know they just want my attention to see if they still got me, are you better off ignoring and not replying? (which could lead to them just deleting you from their phone)

or replying with 1-2 word answers like 'im great' and leave it at that i.e. act uninterested? (there's no point asking her out again, you know she wants you too to see if you still want her, so dont give her what she wants)

 

[Scars]

You could do, "Hey sorry you couldn't make it, I had a blast!" I'm fine, how are you?" and be completely unphased. Then work on raising her interest level and try again.

Or you could just ignore her completely.

No one or two word replies, it just shows that you're angry. Telling her you feel disrespected and that she should of at least gave you a heads up she couldn't make it will probably get you nowhere too, woman tend to think their sh!t don't stink.

-Scars

 

[drift king]

You could do, "Hey sorry you couldn't make it, I had a blast!" I'm fine, how are you?" and be completely unphased. Then work on raising her interest level and try again.

Or you could just ignore her completely.

No one or two word replies, it just shows that you're angry. Telling her you feel disrespected and that she should of at least gave you a heads up she couldn't make it will probably get you nowhere too, woman tend to think their sh!t don't stink.

-Scars

yes this is what i needed to hear, i always thought sending 1-2 word replies would show i'm not interested, but you're right it just comes across angry.

but wouldn't something like 'im great thanks' have the same effect (i.e. being butthurt)?

the thing is though i know she's just wanting to see if i still want them.. not actually interested. it's like as soon as you reply with anything which indicates you want to converse with them they'll stop replying or give you something blunt like 'im great thanks.' then that's the end.. and you'll be kicking yourself for replying.

surely it be better to not sound butt hurt or angry BUT at the same time show little interest or suggestion of getting together again?

 

[Greasy Pig]

I'd just escalate with some more flirting and then hit her up again. If she still doesn't bite, lose that bytch's arse.
Be cool, calm and unaffected by flakiness, but don't keep flogging a dead horse.

 

[bluenorther]

I'm also a regular at answerology-dot-com. Over there, if you mention texting to set up a date, they'll hammer you. Why? Because you need to TALK to her! If she won't answer a frikking voice call, you're already done for.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

You will only come across as angry if you care.

 

[drift king]

ok so what would be the best response to send without sounding butt hurt/angry but at the same time not as interested?

surely asking a question will just put you into that category of 'he still wants me so i dont need to reply anymore'

would a response such as 'yeah im great thanks, hope you're well.' be better?

it doesn't ask any questions and doesn't show you're still interested?

 

[Who Dares Win]

As agreed already ignoring her text would risk her deleting her number (althought I dont consider the odds too high) while a two words reply shows that you are butthurt and therefore she gets the confirmation you still are after her plus that your emotional status has been influenced from her behaviour (an other ego boost for her).

A tactic I've been trying recently is to give a short answer but saying something nice/positive to her to limit the butthurt effect while at the same time keeping the text close to further communication to show that you're not trying to open again.

Something like:

Her: "Sorry for not coming last week,how are you"?

You:"Im wet actually just came back from jogging ahah"

It can be confused for a afc text but you are actally showing you are not hurt from her flaking so angry at her plus you're not trying to initiate a conversation.
It implicitly shows that you are not affected from her nor interested in having further contact, you deprive her of a ego boost twice with the same line, and if you think
a girl wont understand it, I remind you how girls think and operate compared to men.

At that point is very common for them to reply with something "witty" or "funny" regalated to what you said, thats the good moment to dont reply.
At first they will think you're showering so they will wait from 10-20 minutes then they will forget it only to remember it about a couple of days later when the hamsters is spinning.

Of course if you have other options simply ignore their first text but if you dont wanna risk to be deleted try this route.

 

[Greasy Pig]

^^^^ Golden. I'm going to try this.

 

[yuppaz]

What greasy said is good & for that reason. Doing the opposite of sounding butthurt is probably the best answer, like you aren't affected at all either way. Maybe a little relieved she flaked. Can be a little more cruel too and leave her hanging hard... I'm a ****ty tester, but something along the guidelines of:

YO! doin awesome... wholy **** your not going to believe what I just saw brb

and never come back
(sounds pretty contrived the way I wrote it, maybe someone can touch up on it but the idea is to text like it's your buddy, no big deal, then get her really curious about something and leave her hanging / wanting more. It should probably be a lot more subtle then what I wrote but you get the idea