should you bother following up a second time?

[pete101]

if a girl rejects your date meet up time by saying something along the lines of 'i suggest do it for next week' or 'maybe some other time'

is it worth following up?

i usually dont like these answers so i just dont bother following up and see if they do, cos usually if they have interest they'll at least text u some nonsense text just to see if they still got you.

but failing receiving those, would u still bother following up?

i have numbers from 2 months ago which i tried to arrange once and failed, so i just didnt bother calling again cos i moved onto new 1s, i've had a dry patch for the past 4 weeks and looking through my messages to see what i did over the past 2 months and noticed a few numbers where i didnt follow up a second time.

 

[pete101]

for instance about month and half ago i tried to arrange a date with a girl, she was all for it, but my response text was weak it turned her right off.. overcomplicated it, all i needed to say was 'ok, how's 5pm?' rather than write some essay half an hour later. i learnt my lesson. when i went to confirm on the sunday (she never responded to the response text) she said 'hey i gotta go outta town, lets leave it for another time'

i knew i'd lost her so i just forgot about her and never followed up. i decided to contact her just now and her text response was 'who is this, i dont have this number saved?'

should u just not bother to respond if a girl hasn't bothered to save your number/took effort to delete it?

i responded but i feel i shouldn't have bothered, mainly cos she didn't reply after i said who it was.

 

[Borknagar]

I delete numbers like mad myself, keep meeting more and more, send a text or two during normal hours, and if they don't respond delete. I'd rather do that than think "what might have been".

 

[joverby]

Girls do this all the time, might talk to you then flake. You just delete their #/ ignore them(or should anyway) and you will get a random response about 2 weeks later after they are bored and have no options. But the end result will be the same, probably some lame date, if you get one, and no response again after that.

There's a reason it didn't happen in the first place, low attraction / interest. It suddenly peaks again when you have no other options, but it's not that it's peaked, it's that comparatively(to nothing) it's high.

Enough ranting though, the correct answer is, what do you have to lose? If you want to try to go on a date with some girl, ask her if she wants to go. The worst that happends is you get ignored or told no, or some other wishy washy answer that you'll take as interest and keep texting her.

Don't over complicate it and just do it. But you really gotta learn when to back off and recognize when they just aren't interested. There's other girls out there that would be a better use of your time.

 

[pdx1138]

the golden rule is, if they say no to meeting up and don't counter offer for another time...then you should forget about her.

I keep phone numbers at least a month or two before deleting.