"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should you bother calling a girl who's way taller than you?

pete101

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If you picked up a really hot tall girl, a lot taller than yourself, got her digits but could tell she wasn't really that interested, should you bother calling?

I feel that I made her feel pretty that day by asking her out. She wasn't that interested so if I don't call her it won't matter.

We're talking about 3-4 inches. She's like 6ft i'm 5'9''. That would never work right? She'd just feel uncomfortable if she's insecure about her height and that's all i could talk about during the pick up...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SickAgain

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Almost every girl I meet is taller than me. I say go for it and treat it like any other. I really don't think height is the issue in this scenario though.
 

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If you know she is taller than you and that you may feel uncomfortable with her why bother getting her number in the first place?
 

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You know pete, i'm going to change up your post.


If you picked up a really hot girl, got her digits but could tell she wasn't really that interested, should you bother calling?
I don't know. Should you?

I feel that I made her feel pretty that day by asking her out. She wasn't that interested so if I don't call her it won't matter.
Is this about you or her? Make it about you next time.

We're talking about 3-4 inches. She's like 6ft i'm 5'9''. That would never work right? I'd just feel uncomfortable since I'm insecure about my height and that's all i could talk about during the pick up...
Why you so insecure about the height thing. The dynamics in banging a taller chick isn't that difficult.

Good for you getting her number. If you want something more, call her up. If you don't, ditch the number. Everything else doesn't matter.
 

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Rejection is better than regret. Man up and call her. You got the digits, you might as well use them.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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In the time you spent making this meaningless post, you could have "bothered" to call her and either got rejected or get a date.
 

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pete101 said:
I feel that I made her feel pretty that day by asking her out. She wasn't that interested so if I don't call her it won't matter....
What did she say or do that you got the impression that she wasn't really interested? you know it takes more then just height to nail a girl, maybe your game overall wasn't tight enough. Just look at the picture of this douchebag, he knows what he is doing (got the body, swagger and confidence - in his mind he is like 7 feet tall)

http://www.hotchickswithdouchebags.com/uploaded_images/95130-734062.jpg

pete101 said:
We're talking about 3-4 inches. She's like 6ft i'm 5'9''. That would never work right? She'd just feel uncomfortable if she's insecure about her height and that's all i could talk about during the pick up...
If a girl is insecure about her height, then its advantage for you. Most 6ft girls I know or see on the street( which is a rare sight by itself), don't often date guys taller then they are.
 

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If you like her then call her, worst case scenario you'll get rejected. Boo hoo...
On the other hand if you DO end up taking her out and manage to get your $hit together as far as your hangups (coz who are you kidding... you're the one worried about the height difference), you will get lots out of the experience. Why? Because it will boost your confidence hugely (again, as long as you put your issues aside and just relax). If she's 3" taller than you and hot, you'll have everyone staring at the two of you, which will make you feel like you're the $hit, and next thing you know you'll act like it too. Trust me on this...
 

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The vast majority of women I've seen in my day have told me they couldn't be attracted to men who were shorter than them.
 

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she might be taller than u but when u lay down with her...u both are the same height..nahhmeen...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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:cool: Forgive me for sounding like "Doctor Love" here but:

"Does Tom Cruise worry about dating a taller woman?"

Look, like Hughman said, you got the number...CALL HER! If she says no, then at least you tried instead of sitting around wringing your hands like a nervous old woman.:nervous:

CALL HER!!!!!!:up:

Then you can neg hit her for being a shallow b!tch if she says no.
 

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Height has never been and will never BE an Issue,

I've dated 3 women that were taller than me, the last one, almost two inches taller.
The important thing is to create attraction, and don't telegraph your concern about her being taller. It's true, If you don't care, She won't care. It's a matter of confidence. Otherwise she'll smell your inner issue from miles away.
 

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well i called her before i read any of these posts.. and surprisingly she did not answer.. as i expected. then i saw her the next day leaving our campus building.. it's funny seeing their reaction when they know they've something wrong. i was just cool about it didn't mention anything just a hello and left it.

i think she must be aware of my issues with height given i kept talking about it again and again.

i just think it's awkward when there's such a height difference. 1-2 inches isn't a big deal, 3-4 starts being a problem.

another scenario: i number closed another super tall girl and suggested we meet up to play tennis. i knew it was a failed pick up so i thought cool no worries i can have someone else to play tennis with.

she probably thought the same but when i made the call to play tennis for some reason i was nervous on the phone (more to do with panic of ringing everyone in my phonebook to see if they could play there and then cos of a cancellation and an already booked court) so i think she got the impression i wanted her. so when i called her 2 days later she didnt pick up and didnt respond to my text that day to play..

i see her 3 weeks later today in the lift, awkward convo for her, a bullsh1t apology about being busy before i even mentioned about not returning my call.. it was just funny for me.

i go to her 'so do u wanna play tennis this week?' she goes 'yeah, give me a call'

lol how much u wanna bet the same sh1t she'll do not answering her phone responding to the text.. it's just rude. even if shes not interested in me a response was needed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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