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Should you be subserviant at work?

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I say no. Work lately is getting on my nerves enough to be shopping for a new job. My job is in IT to help people fix computer problems. My job is not to take call after call like the call center chumps. Lately the company is short handed and having me do this call taking bullsh!t.

My co workers are the laziest people I have ever seen and I bust my ass every day, and my reward is this crap?

So today they put me in this duty and I say how long? They say all day. I text my supervisor like what the ****? He says just for an hour.

After an hour passes I start emailing the other supervisors telling them what my sup said, and bingo I got out of doing that garbage work.

So, be subserviant at work? Or be an alpha and state your case?

I say never be subserviant to anybody.

What if they do this to me again, what should I say? I don't want to get in trouble by refusing to do something but I want to state my case.

Also, should you tell the supervisor about lazy employees who ignore their work and pass it to other people? I told him about it today because this guy constantly ignores his job duties and I end up doing it. I emailed the sup 2 specific examples of ignored work.
 

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Mauser96 said:
I guess it depends on your options, and demand for your skills. If you like to eat, then yes, you have to be somewhat subservient at work.

I am a supervisor at work. If I have an employee who constantly gives me grief and sleepless nights, then guess what? When it is time to choose people for layoffs he is my guy to show the door to. Regardless of how good he is.

If there are no layoffs and he is REALLY good? I will hang onto him, and advertise until I find someone just as good. Then I will carry that employye until I can get rid of the troublemaker.

All I am saying is tread lightly, unless you are independently wealthy. I know ALOT of people who thought they couldn't be replaced........until they were.

I am the employee who does the job right. All the other employees are lazy and ignore the work and they don't do anything. I bust my ass and do tons of work every day.

The superviser needs me because I do all the work and he can take weeks off and as long as I am there all the work will be done. If I was not there nothing would get done.

That's why I reserve the right to b!tch about things. Go ahead and fire me and watch the department fail. I really don't care.
 

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Yesterday I worked. I was busy all day, I probably solved or worked on over 50 problems. At the end of the day I looked in the system to see what my coworker had done. The coworker had "worked" on maybe 5 problems. sits there using the internet all day, doesn't go the extra mile for anything.

I don't know why they are there, or why they have a job. I could do it on my own. Why can't they pay me more, and fire them? It's a chic, big surprise there.

If it was me doing that I'd be fired long ago. Why do they get away with crap?

I would never complain to the supervisor and say names or anything like that but he has to know.
 
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