"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should we feel sorry for this young woman who keeps getting burned by the c0ck carousel?

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She starts talking about all these men that have pumped & dumped her @ ~ 11:25.

 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Shouldn't she figured out now the red flags behind these kinda guys and started targeting a different type of man?
 

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Attraction isn't a choice.

And feeling sorry for her isn't going to change anything.
You can still learn that what you tend to be attracted to is crap. Some of the babes I used to be "attracted" to that caused a lot of trouble in my life, I can see the "trouble" in their character and movements. So I know better. Many I wouldn't even want to bang anymore.

And no I don't feel "sorry" for her, just don't see why she hasn't learned her lesson by now.
 

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I got 30 seconds in and heard enough....

'I try to lean on people, for their support....'. There is the very essence of your problem sweetheart. She's a female orbiter; a blue pill woman; she believe in the fairy tale.

She's going in to relationships for the wrong reasons: because she's emotionally, psychologically and philosophically empty.

She therefore brings nothing to the table apart from sex; and for herself, is just there to sponge life from the other person.

It's not them, it's her.

Look at her, sitting in her nearly new car, filming away on her brand new iPhone, vlogging, sobbing away like life's handed her a dogsh!t sandwich. It's pathetic, this current navel-gazing incapacity of so many humans right now.

I feel sympathy for people like this, not because she gets burned, but because their conditioning is still so strong, they have no concept of the self; every point of reference they attend to is external to themselves. No wonder she feels the need to 'lean' on people all the time. Her needy behaviour probably scares the living daylights out of men she meets. I know it does me. Absolutely no self-esteem whatsoever.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What would you rate this girl?
Physically... 5. Maybe a 6 if she wasn't such a mess. Her diet and exercise regimen are clearly poor, skinny, and pallid as her skin is. No wonder her life is such a wreck. Personality, zero.
 

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Physically... 5. Maybe a 6 if she wasn't such a mess. Her diet and exercise regimen are clearly poor, skinny, and pallid as her skin is. No wonder her life is such a wreck. Personality, zero.
She's getting passed around, lied to, pumped and dumped. Just played for a straight fool, and she keeps going back to it.
 

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She's the female Ted Mosby. Or me like 2 years ago.

She must be an easy mark for dark triad types/players. Something about her must just scream "low self esteem" and will latch onto anybody that gives a decent compliment and from there easy manipulation to sex and boom.
 

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She's the female Ted Mosby. Or me like 2 years ago.

She must be an easy mark for dark triad types/players. Something about her must just scream "low self esteem" and will latch onto anybody that gives a decent compliment and from there easy manipulation to sex and boom.
But a less built less alpha less worldly man won't have her acting as stupid.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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If you count the amount of times shes says "me," or "i," in the first 3 minutes alone you can see she is way too codependent and self centered. A bad combination.

She is a typical intetnet attention *****. She has dozens of pictures of her self in her underwear and provocativly posing and then she wonders why guys treat her as such.

You can clearly tell by the way she talks about a few guys in her life she is unhappy being one of their plates.
 
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No, she decided to open her legs for losers. Those are the consequences.
 

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Jiminy Christmas, if that girl was crying during the video, head on over to YT and check out some of the comments...
 

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Physically... 5. Maybe a 6 if she wasn't such a mess.
She's a 9 if she's crying because my c0ck is slamming against the end of her vagina :D

When women can't make sense of how they function, they always say they need therapy. If they would just stick with the one dude who makes the greatest emotional imprint on them, they wouldn't have to get all this fvcking therapy. Therapy doesn't fix a high mileage woman just like a mechanic cannot fix a high mileage vehicle.

For women, one-itis is a terminal disease. She still isn't over that guy who does "5hitty things".

I can't help but wonder how many orbiters she keeps in her life. Probably a lot. That's the signal that it's okay for the man to fvck around with other women. Then she makes crying videos on youtube because it's the guy who "can't commit".
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OMG WHYYYYYY would you post a crying video on you tube? "Hey there world, imma victim! feel sorry for me, wouldja?" She needs a therapist, and to find her strength. She hasnt posted a video in 2 weeks?! I havent posted one ever, im late!

Shouldn't she figured out now the red flags behind these kinda guys and started targeting a different type of man?
Yes. Apparently she doesn't have insight about herself enough to know that.

Attraction isn't a choice.

And feeling sorry for her isn't going to change anything.
getting pumped and dumped over and over again isnt about attraction/what you are attracted to, it's about using men to validate herself, and fill a void and boost self esteem. I'll never understand a woman who thinks that just because a man chooses to put his penis inside of her, she is now validated.

I have no sympathy for women who continue to spread their legs like velcro, hoping that this one will stick. Women who are too easy attract low quality men and end up exactly where she is, pumped and dumped and/or dating men who dont have any intentions.
 

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Women who are frigid , and play games making men "wait" are filtering for an easily controlled, sex-starved man with no options. Whether they know it or not.

This whole "quality" theory is dogsh*t. Same with therapy.
This is the second time you captured my post and inserted words that I never said, trying to reframe my meaning. You need to stop trying to manipulate my words and twist my meanings.

First of all, no one mentioned any thing about being frigid or using sex to control anyone. The absolute truth is that, if you allow just any dude to stick it in you as a way to seek validation, you are going to end up with mostly low quality men - that's just about numbers, odds, etc.

Secondly, i find it interesting that the 'quality' theory is dog**** when it comes to a woman seeking a man but the 'quality' theory regarding men seeking women, as MANY of you have defined it in multiple posts here, is not dog****? That seems like quite a double standard to me.

Assuming that the SS community is the exception, even tho you guys call out one another regularly, I'm sure that even men can acquiesce that there ARE men who are to be considered 'low quality'. Everyone is not a gem. In case you (anyone) felt personally insulted, my comment was in no way directed towards anyone here.

The therapy issue is subjective and personal. I believe she would do FAR better unloading to a qualified professional, than attention seeking on you tube.
 
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Actually that was pretty interesting...
 

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She's just trying to get more viewers and subscribers for her channel. Woman her age will relate to this and blah blah, she's just trying to get a larger audience as a vlogger. Yeah she's a talk slut. I wonder how much $$ she pulls in.

 

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You indicated that women who are "too easy" attract "low quality men".

Anyone with any sense knows what you mean by that.
Again, you insist on inserting your own words and assumptions into my statements, in order to make YOUR personal points. I am not so incredibly simple, or shallow, that I would ever call any woman a slut, or 'too easy'.

You seem to be a bit butthurt about what I said, and that has you in somewhat of an attack and defend yourself mode. Not sure why you are taking my statements so personally..... Hmmmmm
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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