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Should we amend the two strikes rule into a one strike rule?

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I pose this question to the board, considering how flaky b**ches are these days with no letup.

But why or why not should we have a one strike rule?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Yes, definitely. But I feel we should make a firm point about flaking with them. i.e. Tell her you go by a "one chance rule" and if she fvcks up you'll drop her ass. Of course, you need to be polite about it - but just get straight to the point.

No one likes getting messed around at the end of the day....
 

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In my opinion, I think two strikes is good, because it can ASSURE you 100% that the bytch isn't interested, by seeing if she flakes twice.

The first strike can be either way. She can just be legitimately busy, sick, tired, whatever the case may be. More often then not I would agree that its Low interest level if she flakes the first time, BUT there are always exceptions and to cut them off first strike, would mean missing opportunities and for me I AINT about missing opportunities ;)

Hell, I've had it where the girl flakes with some ridiculous excuse, and I'm just like "ight low interest level, next" but gave her another chance and eventually killed the pvssy.

So thats why I personally will continue with the two strike rule.
 

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Do you really need a rule book here?

Some get one, others get two, depending on your frame.

I don't have much of a flaking issue. I do gauge interest level as best I can. If interest is flagging, I'm already gone.
 

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Not all strikes are created equal. If you try to set up a date and she responds with "Sorry can't make it, I'm getting a penis surgically implanted that day" and doesn't counter offer... then yes I'd say one strike is sufficient. Whereas if she said, "Oh I'd love to but I'm going to be on vacation that weekend" but doesn't counter offer... I'd say try again.

The two strike policy is a good rule of thumb, but shouldn't be followed precisely to the T in every situation.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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It depends on what the situation is. If you get a blatant lie, then yes, she should be ruled out. If she calls you back and wants to reschedule then you should give one more strike before calling her out on strikes.
 

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It should depend on her tone, how she did it. Was she someone sincere-seeming, or was she a total cünt on wheels about it? That's usually what does it for me. If you're not sure, fück it all and axe her after the first flake. If she hits you up, fine, if not, great.

Too much time spent thinking about these bıtches is not gonna do us any good.
 

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I'll never cut a girl off unless she is just super toxic or pisses me off.

Initially i'm willing to take a girl out and hang out with her, pay for food and drinks if she's sexual. Show her a good time.

I'll allow one flake, if it happens again I just stop making any effort to do anything but lay her. No more dinners, alcohol leads to sex so that's ok but i'm not going anywhere where they serve food, only bars or my place. I'll be very aloof and totally willing to say no to things I don't really feel like doing.

So she either bangs me at my place or maybe if she invites me out and pays i'll start being cool with her again since she is putting some effort in. By this time if we are not banging i'll just stop calling her, i'll take some of her calls though. If i'm bored and she invites me somewhere I just might go.

Whats important is I make sure the relationship decays as a direct reaction to what she is doing. So she sees it was her fault. I don't ever get mad, or call her out on anything. If a girl comes around again after something like this it's with more respect and familiarity. Everything is just way easier now.
 

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If you had a date with an HB 10, would you flake on her because of illness, work, etc? NOPE.

Therefore, women should have a one strike rule. The flaking = LOW INTEREST and should be an immediate red flag to men.
 

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This is REALLY ironic because this girl that flaked on our first date came over to my place last night purely for me to fvck the sh!t out of her.

It's really funny how it started. I sent her a text asking if we were still meeting up for drinks that night and she talked about how she can't make it because of work and all that. I was like "No worries, by the way you have a sexy smile". Next thing I know she says "I bet you would like to see more." I definitely wasn't expecting that response. One thing led to another and we started sexting. Before I know it, she's saying she needs me right now and wants to come over. You know the rest...

I think the strike rule should be arbitrary depending on each situation. Some might have legit excuses while others give BS excuses. Just use your intuition and no more than 2 strikes.
 

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I think it depends on the type of flake.

If a girl cancels with fair warning and apology, then I'm happy to give her another chance. But if a girl cancels last minute or just ignores me when I try to confirm our date, then it's over.

I had a girl do the latter a few weeks ago. I'd got dressed and read to meet her and text her to tell her I'm on my way. She told me to hold up as she wasn't ready. Then I never heard from her for the rest of the night. She text me an apology 2 days later to say something came up and she couldn't make it and wanted to arrange another date. I told her straight I don't tolerate being messed around like that and let her know she blew her chance.

Most guys who get burned by women tend to overlook or dismiss these early redflags. If you note them early into dating a woman, then you will save yourself a lot of pain and confusion later.
 

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every woman deserves a few chances, unless they're obviously BSing or you catch them BSing

no woman deserves past a third chance though(even if she wasn't not interested, would you want to date a woman so busy you need to schedule dates a month in advance?)
 

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Jariel said:
I think it depends on the type of flake.

If a girl cancels with fair warning and apology, then I'm happy to give her another chance. But if a girl cancels last minute or just ignores me when I try to confirm our date, then it's over.

I had a girl do the latter a few weeks ago. I'd got dressed and read to meet her and text her to tell her I'm on my way. She told me to hold up as she wasn't ready. Then I never heard from her for the rest of the night. She text me an apology 2 days later to say something came up and she couldn't make it and wanted to arrange another date. I told her straight I don't tolerate being messed around like that and let her know she blew her chance.

Most guys who get burned by women tend to overlook or dismiss these early redflags. If you note them early into dating a woman, then you will save yourself a lot of pain and confusion later.

Legit post.

If you're working hard to set up a date and she flakes with no apology or respect, she is done.
 
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