"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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should u carry on talking when u wake her up?

drift king

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i went to a club on friday, went for this chick. tried to number close, she kept telling me we could be friends.. i just kept saying, ok kissing friends.

eventually when i went for number close she tried to be smart using her friends phone to take my number saying hers was broken (bullsh1t) so i was smart.. and said 'well your friend will have you number in your phone so look it up there..'

silly girl tried to outwit me haha.. then i called it. i also gave her my facebook cos she was insistent on seeing it.. duno why.

anyway, i called her today at lunch and she was still sleeping.. so was groggy.. should u carry on talking (given that the next time u call she may not answer) until she tells u to call later?

i always seem to tell them i'll call them back in 2 hours, but then i realise they may not pick up.

i did this, she let it ring a few times then put it to busy, so a couple hours later i tried again. (i know i know, rookie mistake) only call once then its her responsibilty to call you.

but should u just carry on talking if you wake her up with your call?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kevin Feng

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Be careful here, there's no reason to get a kick out of it just because you "outwitted" a girl with the number close because chances are she'll just flake on you.

A phone number means absolutely nothing without comfort. If you # close a girl and she has absolutely no interest in you, there is absolutely no reason at all whatsoever to have the number.

I worked with Johnny Wolf for a bit who's with the ABCs of Attraction and his # close looks pretty weak on the surface level, but he RARELY gets flakes. He'll ask for the number, and intentionally punch in incorrectly IN FRONT of the girl, and if the girl corrects him, then it means she's really into him, hence NO flaking.

Remember, a flaky girl just means your game wasn't solid, so take a step back.

-Kevin
 

DaBrite1

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If she was sleeping but you can tell from her voice that she is glad that you called then why not carry on talking?
on the flip side if you can tell that she is probably saying 'why the fvck are you calling me' just say later.
 

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She was trying to avoid taking your number, that shows no interest in getting together with you again. You are supposed to get her number.

On the phone, you should always end the conversation first.

Don't call them back in two hours, that's boring and predictable. And don't call them the day after meeting them.
 

Prodigy746

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This girl was not interested in you from the beginning. . She was trying to reject you in a nice way and you pretty much forced her to give you her number. Only reason she picked up the first time was probably because she didnt know it was you calling. I am not surprised that she didnt pick up the phone after that. You gonna have to let this one go unless she calls back buddy.

Can you post the whole FR so that we can see where you might have gone wrong. You might have asked for the number too early before building attraction.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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