"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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should one wait until xmas is over to call up a girl?

mackdaddy27

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I called up a girl yesterday, and she listed all the things she busy doing...


so she ended the call saying she'll call me saturday..but she hasn't called yet...


so i m thinking xmas is probably not the best time of the year to try and get a girl to hang out with you , when shes got to do xmas
family and stuff like that.

but at the same time, i dont want to forget me in a week or two...and be like who is this?

any suggestions.

thanks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ooops you left the ball in her court big mistake. I have done it many times but have finally learned the cardinal rule:

NEVER to let a girl say she will call you because she WON'T!

You should have said something like "I'm busy Saturday, I'll call you Sunday"

Should you call? I'm not sure someone else can answer that.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Ooops you left the ball in her court big mistake. I have done it many times but have finally learned the cardinal rule:

NEVER to let a girl say she will call you because she WON'T!

You should have said something like "I'm busy Saturday, I'll call you Sunday"

Should you call? I'm not sure someone else can answer that.

thanks thats excellent advice...well I guess i m wait and call her on Sunday then
 

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Don't call her Xmas morning, you have way more important things to do, or you should, and that time is for family anyway. I think calling her after Christmas is a great idea, it shows you aren;t needy and that she isn't that important to you. The only people I'm calling on Christmas are family members and close friends.


I plan on doing the same thing with a girl I've put on the back burner for awhile.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm waiting 2-3 days after Christmas to make a call I'm planning on
 

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tsmith2334 said:
I'm waiting 2-3 days after Christmas to make a call I'm planning on
The Inside Man said:
Don't call her Xmas morning, you have way more important things to do, or you should, and that time is for family anyway. I think calling her after Christmas is a great idea, it shows you aren;t needy and that she isn't that important to you. The only people I'm calling on Christmas are family members and close friends.


I plan on doing the same thing with a girl I've put on the back burner for awhile.

cool you guys are on agreement with what I was thinking, .that its better to wait until things cool down and she has more free time.....I think 1 day after christmas would be fine...but i dont want to wait too long or she 'll forget me !
 

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mackdaddy27 said:
cool you guys are on agreement with what I was thinking, .that its better to wait until things cool down and she has more free time.....I think 1 day after christmas would be fine...but i dont want to wait too long or she 'll forget me !
your right to wait until after christmas... as for the 26th... my instincts tell me to wait one to two more days. I'm aiming for the 27th- 28th. I think three days after is perfect.
 

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She most likely forgot. call her after Christmas. The day after is OK.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
your right to wait until after christmas... as for the 26th... my instincts tell me to wait one to two more days. I'm aiming for the 27th- 28th. I think three days after is perfect.

Yeah I'm thinking Thursday's going to be a great time to start making some calls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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take a minute and look at what just happened from an outside perspective. You are bothering this girl, i.e. she has low interest. If some fat chick called you, what would you tell her? You'd list of the things you are doing, in other words you would let her down easily. However if some really fine chick called you, you'd take a minute to have a real convo. This girl is not interested, don't waste your time man, move on. Don't burn the bridiges, but also just forget her and move on. There mere fact your concerned about whether or not to call her is showing that your needy. This IS NOT what you want to convey. If she said she'd call and she didn't, fvck her for now, call her when your horny in a few weeks.
 
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