Should it be this f**king hard?

[Jitterbug]

Jitterbug I'm 17 I do know mature 14 year olds. Girls usually mature faster that guys. I think you will find most 14 year old guys are less mature. Still even if they are less mature you are just going to have to accept it unless you want to wait untill your 30 and women actually start showing some maturity.

That's what I thought at your age too. No offense but you and the 14 year olds are still dependents living at home (apologies if that's not the case) and are still at school. Better heads on your shoulders than your peers, perhaps, but mature, no. I've been out of home since 18, working to support myself, and in the last few years, support my mother. I have my own place and total independence, and yet I'm still far from maturity.

As for girls maturing faster than guys at that age, it's feminist bullsh!t which totally ignores biological differences dictating different social behaviours. When you get older and have a bigger gap in age with the teenagers, you'll see why.

lol your sterotyping again. Not everyone tlks liek dis 0n msn. It's a problem if it's stopping you from seeing people face to face, but otherwise it's a good supplement. If all the girls are using it we don't we. It's a good way to really get to know people, and its great for rapport. How's it kill your social skills if you still go out a lot but go on MSN instead of watching TV?

You can talk to your friends at school and while you're out doing things together. If you have free time to burn on a computer, go play sports, work out, learn a language or do something worthwhile. Cut down on the idiot box, I mean, TV as well. You don't build up any social skill worth a damn by sitting in front of the TV frying your brain or typing random chat text to people whose body language you can't observe and tonality you can't listen to.

Girls do a lot of silly things. You guys can imitate them if you want, but have a good think about it before you fall to peer pressure like sheep.

 

[SilverSonnet]

Okay guys. Come to a few conclusions/solutions

1.) Uninstalling MSN as we speak. It IS a waste of time, especially for me. I substitute it for life sometimes, when I could be out with mates.
2.) I'm gonna relax alot more, just not be so serious with people.

 

[Mavrick]

If a girl plays her little games and belittles you, just tell her to watch it. It works every time, and they usually react by explaining that they were just joking. They weren't really joking, but now they are trying to get in your good graces by saying it was a joke.

 

[Technical1]

SilverSonnet, the conclusions you reached are excellent.

1. Uninstall all online time-waster chat devices
2. Be less serious about personal relationships.

As a 14 year old who already found SoSuave, you have the luxury of endless gobs of time, way more time than any human being needs to get their life in order.

I'd say, waste your time productively. That means stop worrying about any kind of outcome, but look to do things that can be semi-productive and give results while making you happy and satisfying your curiosity. So on the one hand you're not stressing ANYTHING, on the other hand you're not pissing time away. Throw yourself into a hobby, or learning a language, or a club, or whatever.

When I was 14 I was skateboarding and playing in a band, and trying to learn to hack computers. A similar bouquet of interests will be enough to keep your mind expanding until your peer group matures enough for you to actually have some meaningful fun with them.

(BTW... "mature 14-year olds"? c'mon guys. Being polite and not screaming profanity while setting fire to things does not equate to actually being spiritually mature, whoever said this is basing their definition off superficial behaviors. Acting well-bred with manners doesn't mean one is actually mature, its just a mask learned from parents. The only discrepency I'd make among teenies are those who are "real" (i.e. genuine, down to earth) and those who are "fake" (Paris-Hilton-watching, for example).).

 

[positivity_injection]

girls SilverSonnet's age dont like guys that are anything close to mature......they are as shallow and as "slutty" than ever before, they love to drink, party, make out at movie theatres lol, they are the kind of girls that would call EVERY guy creepy just cuz they dont think he is hot

there is no DJ'ing these girls, and what i mean by that is, there are no techniques to use on them, except for being a fun positive dominant sexual guy

SIlver needs to get with the program and start playing the game if he wants to succeed

 

[SilverSonnet]

Well, I've stopped focusing on girls for now. I dont think I want one.

 

[WesCottII]

Well, I've stopped focusing on girls for now. I dont think I want one.

Well damn skippy, I hope so. At 14, what use are they? Illegal to sleep with, they have no money, no car and look like creepy versions of older women. They're also, not funny, stupid and for the large part look like monkeys.

Anyway, I've heard you beat this tune time and time again. "I'm going to focus on me. I AM MAN. . .blah blah" You should have been focusing on yourself anyway, not some chump change pint size bimbo.

Deleting MSN aint gonna help either kiddo. It's not msn thats the problem, it's erm. . .you. It doesn't make you sound any different than you are in real life, yes it's a pointless tool, and yes you could be doing so much more, but it's your conversation skills that are lacking, not your inability to "sign out".

 

[DonGorgon]

I tell myself over and over "Man, this shouldn't be this hard, we shouldn't need a website to attract women, surely?" But we do, and we're here.
Anyway, I was talking to these two women, I mean c'mon. One's telling me to shush on MSN...Does she realise it's a tool designed to TALK.
The other one, she's ill 'cos of the weather making her hot and feverous etc.
I said, ah you'll be okay in abit. Her reply "err....no."
Wtf? How do you know? Why do women have to cause so much s**t, and try to get attention. It just makes me want to throw in the towel, and ignore these immature b**ches. Sick of them. Really, I am.

cause they can, do, and will get away with it as long as men are desperate..