"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should I write a letter to my girlfriend?

AlexTheGreat

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My girlfriend is leaving next week for a month-long trip with her parents to her home country. I was thinking of writing her a letter, in which I'd write some cool memories of times we've spent together.

I'm asking this because I've had some bad reactions to letters I've wrote in my AFC days, and although those were because they were full of desperate lines and given to girls who I was not dating at the time, the one I wanna write now is lighthearted and I'm giving it to someone I've spent more than 9 months with.

So, what do you guys think? I want real opinions :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warrior74

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you should make some memories before she leaves. and by memories I mean lots of hot freaky sex. Save letters for when she or you aren't coming back for months on end and you know the relationship probably won't last the duration. A month is nothing.
 

I'm Charming

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Seems clingy, I'd leave her to initiate the contact if anything, I'm with Rhoto, if you're a bit on the decadent side, go out and find some other chicks in the meantime.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Warrior74

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ask yourself "what would a bad boy do?" Rail her hard, not call her and probably shag some other girl while she's gone. lol.
 

AlexTheGreat

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WOW! I knew I did a good thing asking you guys! :D

Now that's some opinion I'm talking about! Thanks guys, you've repelled the AFC back in its cave!
 

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I'd write something short + funny + memorable.
Don't look like you put too much effort into it, bust on her a lot by using lines such as "Don't miss me too much while you're gone" ;)
 

AKA FLEX

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Don't do it. It's just a month, it's not like she's moving across the country forever. Bang some chicks while she's gone and pick up a few new tricks to knock her socks off when she gets back.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AlexTheGreat said:
So, what do you guys think? I want real opinions :)
I think you would achieve more success by punching yourself in the balls.

I'm not straight out saying letters are AFC. Heres the thing. Letters along with poetry, philosophy, high end humour and common sense, chicks just dont "get it", thus being impossible for her to truly appreciate. (Dont feel bad for her, on the flipside what men dont understand but women do far outweighs her lack of philosophy101, which in all honesty who gives a fvck about anyway)

So why not give her something she can relate to and honestly appreciate, A decent plowing and the excitement she's going to miss out on if she's silly enough to stay away.
 

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( . )( . ) said:
I think you would achieve more success by punching yourself in the balls.

I'm not straight out saying letters are AFC. Heres the thing. Letters along with poetry, philosophy, high end humour and common sense, chicks just dont "get it", thus being impossible for her to truly appreciate.

So why not give her something she can relate to and honestly appreciate, A decent plowing and the excitement she's going to miss out on if she's silly enough to stay away.
I must disagree on women are not capable of truly appreciating letters or any of the other stuff. In reality, most people can't appreciate it, men nor women. How many do you know, men or women, can recite poetry, debate in philosophy, or understand high-end humour? I can name a few, but if I decided to go around the street to random people, I would probably have to go through a lot of people to find anyone who ever read any philosopher or appreciate any classical literature. Not that to say I would look down on the majority on the street, but to fault women is unbalanced. However, I think any girl can appreciate a good plowing.
 

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but to fault women is unbalanced.
This is NOT a fault of women, to say it's a "fault" makes as much sense as saying it's a "fault" she doesnt have a c@ck.

Also you will see I added this because I knew there would be a few seekers of fantasy who dont yet have a strong grasp on reality, who would chime in with the soul purpose to save and protect and seek a solution where there is no problem.

( . )( . ) said:
(Dont feel bad for her, on the flipside what men dont understand but women do far outweighs her lack of philosophy101, which in all honesty who gives a fvck about anyway)
 

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i think you should sit at your desk
illuminated by an oil lamp,
with a feather from an exotic bird, resting between your fingers
dip the feather in some ink,
and write to your sweet heart
about how you cant live without her

wtf were in the 21st century, just send the b|tch a text message and get over it.
ROFL :crackup: :crackup:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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fuuck her brains out and before she leaves tease her that she will miss you to much. Simple as that partner. As far as her being away and you alone i would suggest you flirt with other chicks you come across just to keep your self in game mode. You don't wanna sit around and just twiddle your thumbs while your gf is gone. Go out and have some fun. I'm not advocating cheating but at the same time i'm not one big on ltr's so it's an open field.

3 simple steps
Fuuck your gfs brain out
Tease her that she will miss you alot
Have fun with friends and girls without her.(your choice to cross the line or not)
 

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Also you will see I added this because I knew there would be a few seekers of fantasy who dont yet have a strong grasp on reality, who would chime in with the soul purpose to save and protect and seek a solution where there is no problem.

Well, I added my part because I knew there are those would be seekers of reality but don't yet have a strong enough grasp, who would chime in and would give the most extreme view too, only on the exact opposite end of the spectrum to the over protective idealist.
 
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