"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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should I try to use some game in this situation?

GoldVault505

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I'm in college in a big city, and there's this girl from whom I borrowed a book for a final paper. She's moderately good looking but not totally amazing, but anyway, her apartment is nearby and I feel I should return the book before break. The thing is, I haven't expressed any interest in her before. I saw her in class everyday, but we never hung out, and the the only other time I've been to her place was the pick the stuff up. She invited me in and gave me a ginger ale, but I was a very timid AFC, just being friendly. Should I try to ratchet up the heat or is it a lost cause. Also, how could I escalate from incidental kino to full-on boneage in one sitting?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Comeback Kid

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It's not a lost cause, and don't go for everything on one try - it doesn't work like that if you don't really know her and it's not a party.

Definitely try to see her again (b/c of the book), and just hang out for a little bit when you give her the book back. It's probably finals time by you, so let her know you'd like to hang out with her when you get back (also feel free to talk about the class, what you both are doing over break, etc.). Steadily get to know her a bit, she'll warm up to you, and then you're on your way.
 

GoldVault505

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How do you think I should factor in kino? I don't want to get friends-boxed, and fear that due to the frequency of our meeting I may already be in that box.
 
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