Should I try last time or let her go?

[nelysses]

Guys first of all sorry for my english. Can you please help me?
I felt in love with my classmate.
I accept that I was tooo slow, I just kept look for a long time.
But now I tried to speak and message her.
Actually message was good, Not too flirty, it was about lessons but sometimes she sends etc. When I tell her something flirty or any compliments she didn't replied. She didn't even say thank you.
One day I wrote her "How was your exam, I looked but couldn't see you after" but she didn't replied and she seen my message after 3 days.

some days ago I just go and talk to her. She was with her only friend and we talked a little bit. Actually she was good but I couldn't understand. For example she doesn't say me even hello, if i don't say. She didn't say me hello one day, she didn't ask something to me if i didn't ask her.

Actually I feel like I'm being disrespectful to myself but I wanted to try my change even it's %0,0000000001
BUT TODAY I saw her with a guy in a cafe. They were drinking something but They were sitting side by side and facing each other.
I love her toooo much but I just thought it's time to accept that she doesn't want me.
She speaks with me only if i talk to her, She wrotes me only if i message her etc. What do you guys think?

I didn't call her for a coffee, So i wonder that Should i ask or accept that she doesn't want it?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You should go focus on other women. Ironically that might be the only thing that will increase her interest, but by then you'll likely realize the only reason you view her as being so special is because you have ZERO other options.

She knows you are like love sick puppy dog she can have anytime she wants it. That's not attractive. It's actually the opposite of attractive...it's repulsive.

 

[nelysses]

You should go focus on other women. Ironically that might be the only thing that will increase her interest, but by then you'll likely realize the only reason you view her as being so special is because you have ZERO other options.

She knows you are like love sick puppy dog she can have anytime she wants it. That's not attractive. It's actually the opposite of attractive...it's repulsive.

Actually this is the main problem. All of my friends or old flirts say "You are to different, One day you're like a dumb lover(YOu say hello, You try to talk, you look for hours etc.) but other day you are like too cold. You aren't say even hello"
So I wonder what if she thinks I don't have enough attention to her or what if she thinks I'm not brave to call her for a coffee?
What if She just waited and I didn't make even one step?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Actually this is the main problem. All of my friends or old flirts say "You are to different, One day you're like a dumb lover(YOu say hello, You try to talk, you look for hours etc.) but other day you are like too cold. You aren't say even hello"
So I wonder what if she thinks I don't have enough attention to her or what if she thinks I'm not brave to call her for a coffee?
What if She just waited and I didn't make even one step?

Then ask her out and find out. Simple solution.

 

[nelysses]

Then ask her out and find out. Simple solution.

Actually I thought but as you say there is a way to increase her interest, soo small change but letting her go. I saw her with a guy and today if i ask her out I think my change will decrase lower than 0
So I don't wanna ask. Or I really don't wanna drink something with her. I just wonder you guys opinions.
since I love this girls even my father asks me "what is wrong with you, you lost your joy", I'm masturbating 3-4 per day now, My friends tells me that I changed and they miss old me, and today since i see her with other guy I really have dark circles under my eyes

So she Wasn't good for me, As i said I just wonder was I too slow or she just didn't want me? I ask because don't wanna make same mistakes with other women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Actually I thought but as you say there is a way to increase her interest, soo small change but letting her go. I saw her with a guy and today if i ask her out I think my change will decrase lower than 0
So I don't wanna ask. Or I really don't wanna drink something with her. I just wonder you guys opinions.
since I love this girls even my father asks me "what is wrong with you, you lost your joy", I'm masturbating 3-4 per day now, My friends tells me that I changed and they miss old me, and today since i see her with other guy I really have dark circles under my eyes

So she Wasn't good for me, As i said I just wonder was I too slow or she just didn't want me? I ask because don't wanna make same mistakes with other women.

How do you know it wasn't a random friend she works with?

 

[nelysses]

How do you know it wasn't a random friend she works with?

Actually I don't know but they look close. Also Girl was looking happier than when she is with me.

Actually I don't mind that but I look her behaviors towards me, It looks she doesn't want me. I say her hello but she never did that before me, she probably knows i like her but she never did these.
Also one time she didn't even look my message.
While we are messaging i tried being little flirty but she ignores my compliments.

SSoo i don't know, the guy can be just a friend.
I love her so much, Also before today i planned call her for a coffee after our Laboratory(im in med school).
But today i noticed that she doesn't love me, She doesn't want me, She is happier when I'm not with her...
So it isn't about guy. It's about her. We can't even talk man. She doesn't try. Before i like this girl(months ago)
I found a girl from Instagram and on first(and last) date We talked for hours.
But with this girl I can't talk anything. She just replies bla bla bla
I talked too much but in collusion she doesn't love me, Maybe she has very good personality I don't know but she doesn't deserve my love, I don't Wanna disrespect myself more.

II just thought if she is happier when I'm not with her, I Will leave her alone.
No ****in looks, no good mornings, no talk no...

 

[nelysses]

How do you know it wasn't a random friend she works with?

Man I noticed i didn't want that girl, I just like her legs
So My main problem isn't that girl now. I am not so social, We are alyaws with my main friend group. So we cant meet with anyone different. I noticed It's my main problem.

 

[Justino]

Guys first of all sorry for my english. Can you please help me?
I felt in love with my classmate.
I accept that I was tooo slow, I just kept look for a long time.
But now I tried to speak and message her.
Actually message was good, Not too flirty, it was about lessons but sometimes she sends etc. When I tell her something flirty or any compliments she didn't replied. She didn't even say thank you.
One day I wrote her "How was your exam, I looked but couldn't see you after" but she didn't replied and she seen my message after 3 days.

some days ago I just go and talk to her. She was with her only friend and we talked a little bit. Actually she was good but I couldn't understand. For example she doesn't say me even hello, if i don't say. She didn't say me hello one day, she didn't ask something to me if i didn't ask her.

Actually I feel like I'm being disrespectful to myself but I wanted to try my change even it's %0,0000000001
BUT TODAY I saw her with a guy in a cafe. They were drinking something but They were sitting side by side and facing each other.
I love her toooo much but I just thought it's time to accept that she doesn't want me.
She speaks with me only if i talk to her, She wrotes me only if i message her etc. What do you guys think?

I didn't call her for a coffee, So i wonder that Should i ask or accept that she doesn't want it?

Let her go man... try to find another one

 

[nelysses]

Let her go man... try to find another one

I will but I have issues with other women too. SO how to improve my social skills?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I will but I have issues with other women too. SO how to improve my social skills?

You go out and be social. This is not mystery. You improve by forcing yourself to do that which you are not good at and that which you avoid. You can't become better socially by avoiding being social.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Getting over oneitis is brutal. Hop on Tinder. That is the cure for Oneitis.

 

[nelysses]

Getting over oneitis is brutal. Hop on Tinder. That is the cure for Oneitis.

Man I live in a small town. I can't use that in there