"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I text her tonight?

SeymourCake

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So last night, I was pretty blazed and I was laying down on my bed going through my contacts. I texted this girl (lets call her A) whom I met in college about 6 months ago and the conversation went like this.

A = Girl
M = Me

M: Wassup? You up?...
A: Who is this? Names not showing up again:(
M: Was that an excuse you made for removing me? It's SeymourCake by the way.
A: Hahaha no I didn't remove you, I'm using a different phone and I didn't save you on the sim.
M: What's good though? How you been?
A: I have been pretty crappy, pulling an all nighter. Have a research paper and final tomorrow..bleah
M: Sounds like you need some midnight counselling...Hit the jack up...
A: Hahaha you might be right

So then I called her, and it rang out until it went to voicemail. (wtf? She was laughing in the text messages, so I thought she wouldn't mind a 20 min chit chat on the phone)

M: Thought you needed it?
M: Good luck on that final though.

Note: This texting convo happened from 1:36am and "ended" at 1:47am.

She hasn't responded since then. I was thinking maybe I should text her tonight and ask her how she thought about the final? Or should I text her days later?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you maybe overanalyzing the situation. I would not contact her again until she replies. Move on otherwise.
 
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Let's switch things up a little from the traditional "should I text her" question:

Post her number in this thread and the first guy who can get her to reply and post a link to a picture of the message wins!
 
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InnerHappiness said:
I think you maybe overanalyzing the situation. I would not contact her again until she replies. Move on otherwise.
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I'm taking this advice. Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SeymourCake said:
She hasn't responded since then. I was thinking maybe I should text her tonight and ask her how she thought about the final? Or should I text her days later?
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I don't get it. Why would you text her again? It's obvious that she doesn't want to talk.

If it were a real prospect (someone you made out with/f**ked/etc), then I'd say give it another shot. This is just some broad who gave you her number 6 months ago. Why even care?
 
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Iceberg said:
I don't get it. Why would you text her again? It's obvious that she doesn't want to talk.

If it were a real prospect (someone you made out with/f**ked/etc), then I'd say give it another shot. This is just some broad who gave you her number 6 months ago. Why even care?
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Yeah, I feel you. I'm just gonna delete her messages off my phone and move on.

She's not a real prospect either.
 
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