Should I tell her?

[Love_Games?!?]

The gf is going back home for the summer once schools over.

Back home is where her ex bf is.

I want to sit her down and explain to her that if she thinks its okay to see him or hang around him while we apart that the LDR just isn't gonna fly for me.

Do you guys think it would be a problem to tell her this?
And if I do present this to her and she argues with me should I cut it off?

Thanks

 

[Tiguere]

1. dont tell her .
2. you should be focusing on your summer and making the best of it with your old friends.
3. she is free to do whatever she wants its up to you to accept her as she is. she has free will just like you. {{{{{{{TRUST}}}}}}}}}

 

[falconslax89]

i would tell her

 

[WC2]

First of all Tiguere is right.

Keep your priorities FIRST always. Don't make HER your priority. Your priority should be finding ways to be successful and have fun over the summer.

Second of all, women don't work on logic. When you 'tell' a girl she can't do something she's still going to do it if she wants to. Hell, she's going to do it whether you tell her to or not if she really wants to.

This is because women work on emotions. If they feel emotional towards a man, they will make a move, boyfriend or no boyfriend. By you telling her that you don't want her to see her ex, you're just showing her that you're not confident in yourself. Emotionally, this is not attractive. Women want a man who has confidence and doesn't even THINK about them being with other men.

Ever notice that jealous men never get anywhere with most women? Ever notice that women are jealous over successful men? This is because successful men know that jealousy is a woman's game. Let the woman be jealous, don't let yourself fall into that fatal trap.

If I were you I would simply not say anything. Improve yourself, stay confident in your relationship, and don't let jealousy get the best of you. I've seen countless men get dumped because they were too jealous over infidelity that NEVER existed.

 

[sodbuster]

WHEN she brings it up,just smile and tell her if she needs to hang with her ex,I guess I'm free to hang with ALL my ex's.Then drop it. If she does,drop her. Women need limits. Too many wimps not setting standards for their women to meet means women have no standards. Of course,you have to be the man she's afraid to lose-so keep working on yourself.Then no woman will disrespect you,or if she does,she's easily replaced.

YOU don't need to be jealous,you need to make HER jealous.Life is better that way.

 

[OFWHAP]

This is all easier said than done. It's got to be hard for him to know that his girlfriend will be spending time away from him with a guy she's probably been intimate with in the past. It will also be hard if this ex boyfriend was the one who ended the relationship and broke her heart. In the end he has to realize that he can't control her and whatever happens, happens. If she wants to see the ex, she'll see the ex. You'll probably be able to tell if anything happened when y'all get back together in the fall. If she's distant, something happened. If she's excited to see you, then probably nothing happened.