theres this girl i really like and i just found out she doesnt see me like that. my emotions are really built up right now and im considering just letting it all out and letting her know how i feel. should i do it? i keep trying to think that maybe shell change her mind in the future but the reality of it is that she probably wont and at this point i really have nothing more to lose. any thoughts or opinions are really appreciated
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
should i tell her how i really feel?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Doc Freezy
Don Juan
no.
not now, not ever.
You will seem like a massive AFC.
not now, not ever.
You will seem like a massive AFC.
alwayslead8821
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Probably not a good idea.. Usually that just makes them feel awkward and as David Deangelo says, makes you look like a wuse.. The reason she probably doesn't like you is just because of how you have been acting. I know its hard as hell sometimes not to tell her how you feel and call her all the time but that is what 96% of girls dont want. They want a man that is a leader! An alpha male as you probably have heard it.. The best way to get back into it is to just act like its no big deal and read about ****y funny and push/pull and build up your confidence. When I started I always thought I am the fvcking catch and I don't need to chase women thats bullsh!t.. It already has had a pretty damn good affect..
im not gonna tell her. i just wrote down everything running through my head on a word document and i already feel a little better. i read all of david deangelos stuff with the ****y funny push pull stuff. this girl is different than other girls shes been in a lot of rough relationships and shes not the one whos gonna chase after me. ive never really been intimate or affectionate towards her since ive been trying the ****y funny thing, so i think ill give it a shot and maybe she can see the side of me that she looks for in a guy
Iceberg
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duke104 said:theres this girl i really like and i just found out she doesnt see me like that. my emotions are really built up right now and im considering just letting it all out and letting her know how i feel. should i do it? i keep trying to think that maybe shell change her mind in the future but the reality of it is that she probably wont and at this point i really have nothing more to lose. any thoughts or opinions are really appreciated
Will "telling her how you feel" make you more attractive to her? You doubt it, right? How would you envision it playing out? She all of a sudden becomes romantically interested in you because you tell her that you're in love with her?
The only way to change her mind about you is to become a man. And a man doesn't lay his emotions out on the line for some chick who hasn't given him anything. A man is out busy doing other things, improving himself, having adventures, and a woman feels PRIVILEGED to be a part of that life he's living.
Get what I'm saying? This woman has given you nothing and you're about to get on your knees telling her how she's the sweetest, most precious girl you've ever met. That stuff works great in romantic comedies (written by girls or sissies), but in real life, i have NEVER seen a woman go for that. In her mind, if she can get you swooning over her with zero effort, then she can go out and get a real man by just applying a little more effort.
No. She isn't. And you're no different than other men. You just gotta learn how to bring out the real man in you and stop putting these women on pedestals.duke104 said:this girl is different than other girls
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
bukowski_merit
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well then i sure as hell hope you didn't try to be nice to her...duke104 said:this girl is different than other girls shes been in a lot of rough relationships and shes not the one whos gonna chase after me.
the secret to your recipe for attracting her lies in what i bolded above...
she is drawn to men who treat her badly.... aka: she has low self esteem (women with high self esteem will not be in "a lot of rough relationships").
she doesn't feel worthy of a guy who treats her right... even if he is using basic push-pull; ****y-funny stuff.... if she doesn't see you as a lover - you weren't mean enough to her.
she wants a badboy, so she can attempt to tame him...
and fail her way into soaking wetness
TheWayOfAllFlesh
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TROLL TROLL TROLL TROLL TROLL
or a very bad AFC
or a very bad AFC
bukowski_merit
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If you replaced the word "good" with "bad" - the ending wouldn't have been the same....duke104 said:bukowski....i see what youre saying...the last guy she liked she was head over heels for cause of how good he treated her then one weekend he completely ignored her and she never talked to him again...
there's a reason women tell men stories like this (it's called an early frame announcement.) It's to gain control early.... aka: you better do as i say or be doomed to never have my presence again. im sure there's many more "Stories" to go along with this one about what she won't tolerate from men.
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I didnt even read any of this thread, I just saw the subject.
FVCK NO.
That will never, ever, ever work. Ever.
I speak from lots of horrible experiences on that one.
FVCK NO.
That will never, ever, ever work. Ever.
I speak from lots of horrible experiences on that one.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.