"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should I talk to her again? or say anything?

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Well, two weeks ago I met a girl. She seemed alright. Didnt do anything... had no job, school... just hung out with her friend was all she ever did. I dont know if she is a HB but I showed my friend a picture of her and he pretty much said "u can do better than that". lol.. i think she's decent looking.
anyway, we talked nonstop for those two weeks... seemed to connect nicely, got her IL up, we had alittle bit of fun but she wasnt exactly my main target. i guess around a week ago she did become my main target. And well, two nights ago, i talked to her and her friend. She said that she wanted to hang out with me next weekend. I said ok. She asked me if I would like to go on a trip with her. I said ok. She and her friend leaves. Two hours later, I talk to her on AIM. we chat. then she says:

"oh well"
"your not my type"
"you look WAY too young"
"peace out"

and leaves.

stupid part is that she KNEW what i looked like... 2 weeks earlier. :rolleyes:

And that was the first time she did that... everything before that was just fine. I dont think I did anything wrong, she did express solid interest.. Unless calling/IMing her everyday is a mistake, I didnt really screw this up.

So, my question is... should I try talking to her again?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If it matters, she called/IMed me some too.

Thats what's weird. I wasnt really sent any signals... either that or my BS detector isn't strong enough.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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"She and her friend leaves."

Are you familiar with the term c*ckblock??
 
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Originally posted by Good_ol_boy
"She and her friend leaves."

Are you familiar with the term c*ckblock??
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yes... she did not give me enough time or anything. i was trying to rush things i guess. i was probably too confident and expected that she would like me.

2 questions remain:
1. what did i do wrong, so i dont make the same mistake with other girls in the future
2. should i do anything iwth her now
 
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Originally posted by SpeedRunner 2 questions remain:
1. what did i do wrong,
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First off, you settled for a girl that you didn't even consider to be attractive. Next, you didn't listen to your friend when he saw the picture of her, laughed and said "Dude, you can do much better than that". Then, you allowed yourself to get wound up around this girl, talking to her either on the phone or over the computer every day. Bear in mind the girl in question is decidedly unattractive. In addition to all of this, you were showing her by your frequent conversation and your basically throwing yourself at her that she didn't have to work at getting you - at all. Now, for your second question.
2. should i do anything iwth her now
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No. In fact, you never should have done anything with her to begin with. Desperation is no excuse for lowering your standards.
 
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Let me make one last point... I thought... she gave me the impression that she was some depressed loner girl. I guess I had too much symapthy... I thought that being nice would go somewhere... damn, I guess you cant be nice to any girl can you? If I knew she was going to do this I would have acted completely different... Im not that stupid, most girls I dont give a **** about.

When she dissed me, trust me I was very suprised. She quickly apologized for everything she did, and seemed submissive to what I wanted. Up until that point. Thats what I dont get.

So does this mean... that all girls are hoes that I shouldnt give a **** about? :rolleyes: This is strange to say the least.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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People in general always have their interests in mind. You were too easily phased by her words. DJs do not care what girls say. If they disrespect you, just ignore it and talk to another girl. Always have more than one prospect. Don't give in and start yelling at her. Although she may have been submissive, she lost respect for you.

Her friend probably also had something to do with this. Always make friends with the girl you are DJing. This creates future prospects and also lessens ****blocks. Not to mention it could create potential jealousy, etc. Notice how you care right now about what your friend said. Big influence.
 
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