"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I Take an Improv Class?

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I was not very social growing up, so I didn't develop much social confidence or conversation skills. I've made a ton of progress this past year bit it's without a doubt my weakest area.

I've read in several books and articles that in improv class is great for improving social skills and confidence. In my city there is an improv class for 8 weeks and cheap too, $100, and has good reviews online. I was thinking about signing up.

Have any of you taken an improv class? Was it worth it? Anything I should do ahead of time to get the most out of it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dustmuffin

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No I haven't but it sounds like you should give it a try.
 

RangerMIke

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Yep do it. I always advise people to get involved with stuff that interests them. Improv is fun and it will improve your skills.
 

dustmuffin

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I am going to take improv now. You got me interested.
 

HeadLightsOn

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Ive done several improv classes (and other very social type stuff that is similar). Its REALLY good, I highly recommend you try it out.

Improve is good because it doesnt involve too much technical or rigid style of learning. Everyone is on the same page and you get to have fun. Low stress and great social building :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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