Should I swallow my pride this time?

[Bigg Boss]

Maaaan... Listen to this.

I was just gettin back together with my ex right.. Friday, me and her went out for the day and had a great time. When I dropped her off at home, she started msgin me later and she kept tellin me how she was thinkin bout me, and that night I snuck her out her house and we chilled for like 4 hours, love dove dove sh!t.

So Sunday mornin comes, I'm chillin w/ a few. Me and one of the chicks I'm cool with start playin around, jokin and all. At one point I steal her candy and she says if I eat it, she's gon call my girl (we didn't get back together that night tho! she said she wasnt ready!). I was like sh!t, do it. I figured I'd call her tonite and tell her it wasn't serious( I had to wait til nite cuz I had work).

Well she starts textin "my girl". Starts sayin stuff like "ayo I got yo man now" and all this other trash talk. Well off the bat, my girl starts showin emotions, starts talkin sh1t back. Eventually, my girl calls the phone and says they start gettin into it. So the chick starts really getting into it, and I'm like whoooa, don't forget u just playin around. But she never told my girl she was playin around. At one point, my girl asks to talk to me, I'm like "nooo, i'm not gettin into it, tell her u playin, u jokin". Well I guess that was a bad move (it was a bad move letting her talk to my girl in the first place!). They finally stop calling each other talkin shyt.


So I just tried to call my girl just now right. She picks up the phone (surprisingly), and is like

Her: What?
Me: You straight?
Her: No
Me: She was messin around, you believe what she says over what I say? I didn't even say anything to you
Her: I asked to speak to you, you should've got the phone. I heard you laughin in the background (tru)
Me: She was playin, I aint think you was gon take it that serious. Why the hell you even text her back? I sent you a message on somebody else's phone to ignore the msgs comin from my phone.
Her: Whatever
Me: What do you mean whatever?
Her; I don't want to talk to you anymore
Me: Oh what so it's like that?
Her: yeah
Me: Aight *click*


Now I know I f*cked up. I been on that DJ stuff for too long, not giving a f**k, and just being full of myself. So I hung up on her because I never thought it would be a good look to be on my knees asking for her to forgive me. I mean, I told her my side of the story, she didn't believe me, so what the hell else am I suppose to do?

Should I swallow my pride and call her back? That would make me feel like a bytch on the real. I mean, I just basically said "aight whatever fck u too then", how am I suppose to flip that around?

This wasn't covered in the DJ bible :cuss: . I'm stepping out of the DJ box and looking in and thinking "wow, that was some fcked up stuff u did man".

 

[Morphiex]

do not call her .... give it a few days .... after that then you could 1 call her 2. text her .3 not do anything ....

i wont say that option a leads to this or that , because i dont really know you two ... but wait a few days before deciding anything...

also you were right you gave her a msg saying she was playing , you told her that it wasent real ... and when girls go "whatever" it means they know they lost....

 

[Faded Image]

Put yourself in her shoes.

Would you want to continue talking to your ex if another dude used her phone her phone texting you with that nonsense, no.

This situation can only be resolved through a sincere apology, anything else will be over doing it (i.e. flowers, candy, or gifts). If you've already rendered an apology and she didn't accept it, your part is done the rest is up to her.

If you get through this, never allow that sh*t to happen again.

 

[Demon]

I been on that DJ stuff for too long, not giving a f**k, and just being full of myself.

That's not being a DJ. That's being a jerk. Whoever told you to be careless and arrogant gave you bad advice, and probably deserves to be shot. Read my tip linked in my signature to find out what makes a DJ different.

 

[DarkLight]

First off... you should have never let some b!tch text your ex, playin like she was playin. What the fvck good is gonna come of that? (That you can prove to some random chick, that don't give a fvck? lol... please! Dumb pride sh!t there, like you later explained bein full of yourself, "not giving a fvck.")

Got to see the outcome of events before they happen, playa!
Fvck a ***** tryin to spark nonsense in your life.

Anyways... on to the real.
Of course your girl's gonna get hurt/bothered by the whole event. Chicks are emotional already... and then to get into some random BS, w. another chick over the man she just lovey-dovey, re-opened some feelings for. Oh sht! So first undertand... this isn't really a test. Its your girl honestly not feelin the whole incident, evil words, heat, and some heart-hurt over you through this.

Personally... I would give it a day or 2.
Then swoop by her house, and talk to her.
That way you she can see where your coming from... and that it wasn't truly a malicious event. She'll see that it was supposed to be a joke... but that 2 chicks instinctually just got into it. Get that lil grain of understanding in her goin... then to lighten the mood into some laughter, tell her "I'm proud of you baby, fightin for your man like that! lol... you lil lion you!"

She'll laugh... and voila!
A little emotional alchemy, and alls back on a better note.
Understanding dissolved, laughter transformed!

Peace'

 

[Bigg Boss]

Well I been textin her then i eventually called her. We kept running into the point where she says "i do not have time for games, so i can't be with you".

Something happened earlier this year where my friend had called up a girl from my phone (one of my girl's friends) and started talkin to her. my girl's friend called my girl, tellin her that I tried to "talk" to her. We squashed that quick tho, we got cool again real quick. But now my girl keeps refering back to that saying have played games before. We've been goin out a whole year, 2 silly incidents happen (we've had no other incidents, or fights). I told her I wouldn't let anyone see my phone again, and i'd put a lock on it. She still says i play games.

How the hell do I let her know I don't play games?

After tonight, I'm just gonna fall back and let her think about it for a little bit...

 

[mrRuckus]

Maaaan... Listen to this.

I was just gettin back together with my ex right.. .

Oh another thread i don't have to read all of. Hurray what a time saver.

No. Just no. Idiot. Stupid. I'm saying this for your own good. Stop being retarded. No getting back with the ex. I have no idea what the rest of your post is but it's all avoided as well as all future problems by not being an idiot and getting back with the ex.

 

[DarkLight]

Break it down!
Clarify to her.

"Look baby... that sh!t that happen back in the day was dumb random sh!t too. I wasn't up to any games... it just appears like that, but on the real, I'm the same cool cat we had goodness with the other night. All I can say is this sh!t was dumb, I can understand how this would bother you, and that you might link up this pattern of games in your mind to me... but in reality, its just dumb random sh!t that popped off again. Not me playin games. I trust you can be clear enough to see this for what it is, and enjoy a good thing like we did the other night. But if not... I'll understand, and suave it on. Catchya later."

Boom!
Drop that, if you want her to know you don't play games... and where your at.

Beyond that... anything will be supplicating and de-valuing you.
Relationships are another story... just got to keep it real, at the same time holding your self-respect/integrity.

Thats about it Ace.
Clarity in her eyes... whatever she chooses is cool.
A pimp is gonna keep it G' either way.