"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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should i surprise gf and go to her basketball grand final game?

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okay she always tells me about her games and stuff. it's not pro or anything. just something she manages for a bunch of people to play against each other. her grand final is tomorrow night. should i go there and surprise her even though she didn't invite me? i don't even know where the place is but i could ask her friend i guess and that friend is going there too who lives near me and could drive by pick me up and drop me back home later.

but i have this gut feeling it's probably too early to go do something like this. she didn't invite me and usually invites me out to places. only been together two months and i don't want her to feel awkward and distract her when shes playing an important game. just send a text saying "good luck tonight".

plus i'm going to see her the next day (friday night) anyway, spending the night with her out in town then sleeping at her house, then going to the museum the next day (sat) and she's probably going to sleep at mine that same night.

what do you guys think? bad idea right?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Listen to your gut. It probably is too early. If you were going out for a long time, it might be ok. For now though, I don't think there is anything to be gained by showing up uninvited.

I know you mean well, and it is a nice gesture in theory. But this early on, she could read it as neediness or even a bit of stalking.

You are doing well with her given the sleepovers. Just continue as usual and pass on this idea.
 
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yeah i think you're right. i didn't really wanna go and i'm going to busy all day anyway and just wanna relax after that. i really just wanted to go and put a smile on her face but yep, too soon and needy. thanks for the kick in the butt bro.
 
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why wouldnt she invite you to her game? if it's that important.
not really liking that.
are her friends going?
 
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i dunno. her friends are the one she plays with on her team. it's not a pro game or anything, they just play for fun but it's like the finals match. she knows im not that into sports too. she invites me everywhere else. probably also because i live a little far and don't drive atm. i just wanted to be nice and surprise her but i won't. i'm seeing her all weekend anyway.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you could save the suprise for another time,,it wont gain you to much now,,, seems like you got it good already,, mabey she didnt invite you cause she didnt want to pick you and and drop you off,,, considering its all her friends its pretty much like a girls night out,, after they play there probly going to celebrate,,,, it would be wierd if you were the only guy still there celbrating with them no?
 
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yeah, right on the dot romeo. i will forget about this idea and leave it for another time. something to talk about on friday night anyway :p
 
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