So i was talking to this girl for a few weeks, had lots of great conversation and shared a lot of great laughs. About three weeks into knowing her, her ex boyfriend wants to get back with her and now she is lost and is starting to make more and more excuses as each day passes. Should i even bother with this girl given the fact that i like her and think we would be a great match or should i move on? I am tying to give her the space she needs but at the same time that can play in my favor or against me. She can ultimately say that i didnt show enough interest and therefore she went back to her ex or she can say i was to pushy and not want to get into a relationship. What is a guy to do?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Should i still persue or move on?
- Thread starter youngstud
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
youngstud said:
Your mind set is already set up to fail.. Based off the bolded line above... Just make sure the time you spend with her is fun and keep meeting new girls. As long as your not COMPLETELY ignoring her....giving her more attention will not make her want you more. Just remember if she's got exbf drama....you shouldn't get seriously involved with her anyway....
PIMP
WC2
Master Don Juan
The mentality that she will give you excuses like 'you didn't pay enough attention to me or talk to me enough' is a losing mentality.
Why?
Because if she liked you enough in the first place then she would drop those excuses and attempt to contact you.
Women go back to their ex's all the time whether it be for sex, comfort, or friendship, so don't get too discouraged; even some of the best DJs get shut down by that gal who is still seeing her ex.
The proper mentality is to pursue a woman without overstepping your boundaries, and see others at the same time; after all you're both single right? If she has real interest then she will show it with not only words, but actions.
Leave this broad alone for now and work on other women. If she comes around, don't be as quick to bite; she's been playing the baiting game with you for awhile. It's only when she starts acting that the baiting game can stop.
Why?
Because if she liked you enough in the first place then she would drop those excuses and attempt to contact you.
Women go back to their ex's all the time whether it be for sex, comfort, or friendship, so don't get too discouraged; even some of the best DJs get shut down by that gal who is still seeing her ex.
The proper mentality is to pursue a woman without overstepping your boundaries, and see others at the same time; after all you're both single right? If she has real interest then she will show it with not only words, but actions.
Leave this broad alone for now and work on other women. If she comes around, don't be as quick to bite; she's been playing the baiting game with you for awhile. It's only when she starts acting that the baiting game can stop.
She gets to have lunch, dinner, great conversation and laughs with you, while her ex-bf does nothing but gets mind blowing basic instinct type sex from her? What a deal for her and him!youngstud said:
What is a guy to do? A guy is to have sex with her and step up the physical as soon as possible. If you don't kiss her, sleep with her, or have sex with her, what's the difference between going out with you and her best friends from college? You can't be that funny. Also, if she resists when or if you try to a make a move, you know your answer.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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It sounds like you made no attempt to physically escalate, she got bored and put you into the "friend zone." Going weeks on end without making a move is a no no if you want sex.
PS: if you focus on her primarily or exclusively while you game her, without gaming other girls, you will likely come across as needy and turn her off even more. Put HER on the backburner (while not ignoring her completely) while seeking fresh game.
PS: if you focus on her primarily or exclusively while you game her, without gaming other girls, you will likely come across as needy and turn her off even more. Put HER on the backburner (while not ignoring her completely) while seeking fresh game.
youngstud said: