"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should I still meet this girl?

djokovic77

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Cute girl from online dating, ex cheerleader and cheerleader coach, 21 years old brunette.

So she contacted me first, we been texting back and forth a couple days...let a couple weeks go by not really showin that much interest then one day last week she sends me a hot pg 13 pic and says we shud talk on the phone.

I call her at like 4 am (I bartend) and she said shes up all night and we end up talking till 8 or later...a lot of it is insecure **** coming from her about exes and what pics should she take down (she said she's taking down one of her male friend because "people might get the wrong idea and he's ugly" I made fun of her for being shallow etc. But also just connecting, she said she feels a strong "connection" and cant wait to see me in person.

I'm thinking I don't wanna be the beta friend who talks for hours but she starts talking sexual saying stuff she wants me to do to her and giggling talking about her catholic girl outfit..sounded like she was masturbating on the phone tbh.. and then I said I had to get some sleep at like 8

Next day is where things get weird...all of a sudden she is kinda a bit distant by text but she seemed friendlier on the phone than in previous texts to I don't know. I just that night am like "can you hang next weekend?" and she started to get annoyed and like acted as if she was surprised that I was waiting that long to see her (I have work every day leading up to this but am free starting Thurs) she is kinda rude even and sniping at me like "I don't know, I don't make plans that far in advance" so I go cold for a couple days

My friend who is usually like "ditch the *****" told me she was prob disappointed after talking for hours that I didn't want to see her for over a week, especially since the convo was sexual. So, I tried again today...texted her "Wanna hang Thursday?" and she said "What's Thursday?...why is everyone asking me to hang then is it like a holiday or something" so at this point I'm like whatever then she goes "Are you free any other days :)" so I said Wednesday evening or Saturday...she goes "okay let me check my schedule to see if I'm free then :)" (clearly bs to **** with me and make me wait, how long does it take to know you are free if you are interested) and that's it from about an hour ago.

Normally if any other girl acted like this, I would just say **** it but since she seemed keen in the beginning, and then kinda pissed I didn't wanna see her, maybe she is trynna pay me back a bit along with lost interest. I also feel that you can't really tell anything until you meet someone in person, so I'm not as keen to totally give up on it, but I do feel beta even considering it after such cold responses. I'm not gonna text her anymore but I'm still expecting to her respond like tonight or tmrw with the go ahead, should I even bother meeting up?
 
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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pyros

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djokovic77 said:
Cute girl from online dating, ex cheerleader and cheerleader coach, 21 years old brunette.

So she contacted me first, we been texting back and forth a couple days...let a couple weeks go by not really showin that much interest then one day last week she sends me a hot pg 13 pic and says we shud talk on the phone.

I call her at like 4 am (I bartend) and she said shes up all night and we end up talking till 8 or later...a lot of it is insecure **** coming from her about exes and what pics should she take down (she said she's taking down one of her male friend because "people might get the wrong idea and he's ugly" I made fun of her for being shallow etc. But also just connecting, she said she feels a strong "connection" and cant wait to see me in person.

I'm thinking I don't wanna be the beta friend who talks for hours but she starts talking sexual saying stuff she wants me to do to her and giggling talking about her catholic girl outfit..sounded like she was masturbating on the phone tbh.. and then I said I had to get some sleep at like 8

Next day is where things get weird...all of a sudden she is kinda a bit distant by text but she seemed friendlier on the phone than in previous texts to I don't know. I just that night am like "can you hang next weekend?" and she started to get annoyed and like acted as if she was surprised that I was waiting that long to see her (I have work every day leading up to this but am free starting Thurs) she is kinda rude even and sniping at me like "I don't know, I don't make plans that far in advance" so I go cold for a couple days

My friend who is usually like "ditch the *****" told me she was prob disappointed after talking for hours that I didn't want to see her for over a week, especially since the convo was sexual. So, I tried again today...texted her "Wanna hang Thursday?" and she said "What's Thursday?...why is everyone asking me to hang then is it like a holiday or something" so at this point I'm like whatever then she goes "Are you free any other days :)" so I said Wednesday evening or Saturday...she goes "okay let me check my schedule to see if I'm free then :)" (clearly bs to **** with me and make me wait, how long does it take to know you are free if you are interested) and that's it from about an hour ago.

Normally if any other girl acted like this, I would just say **** it but since she seemed keen in the beginning, and then kinda pissed I didn't wanna see her, maybe she is trynna pay me back a bit along with lost interest. I also feel that you can't really tell anything until you meet someone in person, so I'm not as keen to totally give up on it, but I do feel beta even considering it after such cold responses. I'm not gonna text her anymore but I'm still expecting to her respond like tonight or tmrw with the go ahead, should I even bother meeting up?
She does not seem that interested, does she?
Why? because you're just some random dude she met online, and she knows another 30 guys that would like to bang her so...

"Let me check my schedule...", wat da fu-ck? LMAO.
ok, let her 'check it'. Never contact her again unless she contacts you to arrange a date.

Too many bit-ches nowadays...it happends to all of us. Do not waste your time with a girl that doesn't know if she wants to spend time with you and has to think about it.
 

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pyros said:
She does not seem that interested, does she?
Why? because you're just some random dude she met online, and she knows another 30 guys that would like to bang her so...

"Let me check my schedule...", wat da fu-ck? LMAO.
ok, let her 'check it'. Never contact her again unless she contacts you to arrange a date.

Too many bit-ches nowadays...it happends to all of us. Do not waste your time with a girl that doesn't know if she wants to spend time with you and has to think about it.
you're right. **** her
 

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No, just backburner! Don't be so black and white. You're not ugly, and this chick might fvck you. Work on you, play it cool with her. Stop investing hours but have a good time. And don't be afraid to fail.
 
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