"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

CP3WOO

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Ok...Me and my ex are still really good friends. We decided to get each other gifts for Christmas. I got her some clothes and her favorite movie on Blue Ray (Step Brothers). Well...I thought I got her an awesome gift, but she topped my gift and got me courtside Hornets tickets to see them play the Blazers (probably my 2nd favorite team behind the Hornets). I spent about $250 on her...Courtside seats to see the New Orleans Hornets isn't cheap guys. She got me 2 tickets and said "take whoever you want"...Should I take her? I mean, we're still good friends. However, the girl I'm talking to now will most likely get pissed. She already got mad that I spent $250 on her. She doesn't know about the tickets yet.

So who do I chose...

(A) My ex -
She gave me the tickets
Likes the Hornets
We're pretty much best friends

(B) Current girl I'm talking to who will most likely end up being my girlfriend -
I love being with her
Really doesn't like the NBA
Sex is amazing

(C) My best bro -
My partner in crime
LOVES the Hornets like me
I can actually talk sports with him

So far, I'm leading toward my ex...

What should I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Halloween

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It sounds like your relationship with your ex is already putting a strain on your relationship. Let's pretend it's like an equation or something:

Relationship with ex: 5 points strong (out of 10).
Relationship with current gf: 8 points strong (out of 10, -2 because of strain).

You:
Take out your ex, and your gf finds out.
Resulting in:
+2 points with your ex (total: 7)
-4 points with your gf (total: 4).

You:
Take out your ex, and your gf doesn't find out.
Resulting in:
+2 points with your ex (total: 7)
+0 points with your gf (total: 8).
(but you lied).

You:
Take out your gf, slighting your ex.
Resulting in:
-3 points with your ex (total: 2)
-1 points with your gf (total: 8).
(your girlfriend doesn't like basketball OR where the tix came from)

You:
Take out your bro, slighting your ex.
Resulting in:
-2 points with your ex (total: 3)
+0 points with your gf (total: 8).
 

WC2

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First of all, why are you spending $200 some dollars on your ex for christmas? I wouldn't even spend that much on my GIRLFRIEND!

Also, I question how you two broke up in the first place. Did she offer than false branch of friendship which you accepted? Although it is pretty nice of her to buy you those tickets.

Go with your bro.
 

Warrior74

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Are you being a player? You keep your ex around because you enjoy the attention and you know it helps keep your current girl in check. She feels like you might have one foot out the door at any moment and she's probably acting really nice trying to keep you. You know what you are doing. But you are slipping up by letting the ex be to prominent in your game. It should be hinted at, not overt. Take your bro, don't go on a date with your ex. Play on player.
 
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