Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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should i stay or go now?

2bAlpha

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As simple as I can make this; Knocked up my boss when i was 21, she was 27 when kid was born. Her family owns the business we worked at, old money, and hate me ever since, very nasty people to everyone. after 5 years of on-off relationship due to her family's financial influence on her, I found the most amazing girl.
New girl made me feel the best I have in 6 years. After 9 months of dating, got our own place (stupid idea). Great kinky sex, loyal (for now at least), good with my kid, doesn't ask questions, no drinking(some pot), never fighting, doesn't have a bad thing to say about anyone including the ex. However, she developed tumor that causes depression 3 months ago, i got confirmation of that, and its been tough dealing with her probelms, not terminal but requires extensive surgerory.

While taking kid to baseball game a couple weeks ago with the ex as friends, ran into some of ex's family coincedentally. They were ass wipes to me as expected. What wasn't expected was the ex's response, she totally flipped out on them. I was shocked to learn that she doesn't speak to them anymore, she told me she blames them for being a single mom and hate them for it. She's been trying to get me back since she learned of new gf.
This seems too good to be true to me, why didn't this happen years ago? Do I leave a wonderful, good person with medical issues for my kid? Anyone know about getting back together with someone they've a kid after a failed relationship?
Great girl with medical issues or wealthy pain in the ass with my kid? Christ I'm sick of thinking about this!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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starplayer

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This sounds like a messy situation.

Did you ever get a paternity test done for the kid? (No offense just gotta ask, man).

Your ex wants you now because she knows you've replaced her. Classic case of wanting what you can't have. It happens all the time. Will she still want you if she gets you?

Do you really want to go back to her knowing that it will probably fail again sooner or later? If it wasn't for the kid I would say never go back to your ex. Personally, I would not get involved with this woman again.
 

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starplayer said:
This sounds like a messy situation.

Did you ever get a paternity test done for the kid? (No offense just gotta ask, man).

Your ex wants you now because she knows you've replaced her. Classic case of wanting what you can't have. It happens all the time. Will she still want you if she gets you?

Do you really want to go back to her knowing that it will probably fail again sooner or later? If it wasn't for the kid I would say never go back to your ex. Personally, I would not get involved with this woman again.
Thanks, and no offense taken, I did get a test done and it was for sure mine. Agreed, if not for the kid, she'd be a non-thought years ago. I feel that my kid deserves their parents, so long as there isn't a hostile household to grow up in. Go back to her, and I give it a 3/1 shot to work out but at the expense of a GOOD PERSON. Don't go back and I won't get to watch my child grow. Anyone know of a similar situation?
 
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