"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should i stay or go? Help needed!

silverwex

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Hi guys,

Im sitting at home here, after getting up at 1pm. Bored, frustrated and mildly depressed I guess.

Here's the lowdown, I worked part-time (not much at that), and fairly low in confidence and dont have much going for me.

My hometown doesnt really have that much to offer me at this moment in time and i dont have a CLUE what to do with my life.

I suppose you could say im lazy but when I tell myself I should get a full time job I say to myself 'Yeah thatd be cool, coz then i could get way more money and buy what i want etc...'

But then my mind/subconcious says 'NO, you're not confident enough for change and you wont do well in that new job! DONT DO IT!'

So its a cycle that goes round and round and never ends...

On the plus side I have a LOT of friends, a healthy social life and I do score more than my fair share of girls.

I suppose you could say that im stuck in a rut and cant get out at this cycle even tho in the back of my mind i wanna.

Two of my closest friends have gone to Canada for the year (theyll be back in November) and occasionally tell me i should go over to them and stay for a while (maybe even get a job where i can be paid in hand - if ya know what i mean?! :) and stay there til i get kicked out of the country!)

Is this possible? They say you can stay there for 3 months legally.

Today being down and all I have seriously considered this but am not sure what to do? And how to do it!

Anyone got any info?

They're in Vancouver. (Apparently travel does wonders for your confidence!)

PS - I love summer in my hometown with all my friends back for the season - going out on the piss, scoring chicks and having a good time!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You could always start a band and become the next "U2"!
Then you'll have all the tail you want and all the Money too!
 

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I say go , man - there is nothing like putting yourself in completely new surroundings to help you see things in a new light, and possibly get some inspiration and motivation...you got nothing to lose eh? :cool:
 

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Keep your lines closer instead of double spacing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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silverwex

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Hey guys,

Wow, i was very down yesterday but then my friedns called for me and we played soccer!

Feel much better today, mustve been a once off!

Thanks for advice tho.

PS - DJ DORK: If you're gonna post things like that and not try help people, DONT post at all! :mad:
 

Crank_It_Up

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Originally posted by silverwex
...Here's the lowdown, I worked part-time (not much at that), and fairly low in confidence and dont have much going for me.

My hometown doesnt really have that much to offer me at this moment in time and i dont have a CLUE what to do with my life.

PS - I love summer in my hometown with all my friends back for the season - going out on the piss, scoring chicks and having a good time!
don't do anything, as time passes you'll see that chicks really love a guy with a part time job, low in confidence, and not a clue with what to do with his life. If they don't, there is always soccer right?
 

silverwex

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Thanks crank_it_up.

Nice reply.

Im also sure chicks would love a 49 year old that posts nearly 9 times a day on these boards...

Back to my original post: What i forgot to mention is that i also am a freelance web designer - not many people can say they have their own mini company at my age. :D

Anyway, this post should be closed, i wasnt thinking clearly when i posted.

Thanks guys.
 

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Originally posted by silverwex
Hi guys,

Im sitting at home here, after getting up at 1pm. Bored, frustrated and mildly depressed I guess.

Here's the lowdown, I worked part-time (not much at that), and fairly low in confidence and dont have much going for me.

My hometown doesnt really have that much to offer me at this moment in time and i dont have a CLUE what to do with my life.

I suppose you could say im lazy but when I tell myself I should get a full time job I say to myself 'Yeah thatd be cool, coz then i could get way more money and buy what i want etc...'

But then my mind/subconcious says 'NO, you're not confident enough for change and you wont do well in that new job! DONT DO IT!'

So its a cycle that goes round and round and never ends...

On the plus side I have a LOT of friends, a healthy social life and I do score more than my fair share of girls.

I suppose you could say that im stuck in a rut and cant get out at this cycle even tho in the back of my mind i wanna.

Two of my closest friends have gone to Canada for the year (theyll be back in November) and occasionally tell me i should go over to them and stay for a while (maybe even get a job where i can be paid in hand - if ya know what i mean?! :) and stay there til i get kicked out of the country!)

Is this possible? They say you can stay there for 3 months legally.

Today being down and all I have seriously considered this but am not sure what to do? And how to do it!

Anyone got any info?

They're in Vancouver. (Apparently travel does wonders for your confidence!)

PS - I love summer in my hometown with all my friends back for the season - going out on the piss, scoring chicks and having a good time!
You can most definitely come here and stay for three months on a visa, you should do it! I guarantee you'll love BC, and travelling will do wonders for you. Just be wary of smoking the funny green stuff. Being Irish, you'll get along with us well, I know quite a few Irishmen who've immigrated here and you lot seem to fit in with us right off the bat. Go for it!
 
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