Should I stay home next week?

[Bhockeyplaya]

alright here is my predicament. I'm 20 years old and saw this girl a couple days ago. Now I called her last night and asked if she wanted to do anything. It was kind of late last night maybe 12-12:30am and she declined mentioning she had to work all day today so I told her to give me a call on thurs if she wanted to do anything. Also I told another friend I would go with him to a college night/bar thing same night. Asking her to go is no option.

As of right now I am gonna go to this college night thing, I feel she had her chance last night when I called. If she calls is this going to mess anything up? I read the article on cognitive dissonence but in a way I already told her we may do somethin. I just feel being declined last night would not be in my favor and she sounded like she wanted to do something coming up thurs.

Any advice?

 

[Bhockeyplaya]

No one has any opinions on this?

is this a good or a bad thing to not be there when she calls? I could come back early but right now I really dont care either way. Is letting her down going to hurt anything? I am just curious on opinions

 

[Phyzzle]

When you call a girl to ask her out, do just that: call her and ask her out.

What you did was call and ask her to call you and ask you out . . . first, it makes you look indecisive, like she's the one who has to make the plans, and second, it's freakin' complicated. She was already on the dam phone. :nono:

College guys think it's wierd to make plans more than ten minutes in advance, but it's fine.

Don't worry: she won't call. You'll have to call her back and set something up. She won't.

 

[Bhockeyplaya]

thanks for the advice. As of right now I wont call her for at least another week or two. I am going to just ignore her as I have other girls to talk to. Thanks again though. I will let you know if you were right on thurs (if she doesnt call) Thanks again.