"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should i return to cashiering??

SoSuaveDude

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Currently working in the customer service, front desk of a grocery store, and have for 3 months now. Before acquiring this position, i was a cashier for approximately 3 months in this same store before being approached for the customer service position. First i will say that the pay is exactly the same for both positions!! The main reason i accepted the customer service job was due to the fact of it looking "sharp" on a resume. However, now i can imagine that being a cashier could pass off as customer service, i mean they're in the same realm

Now the cashier job was pretty cool looking back. Sure it is very repetitive, but beyond that, i have literally no complaints. Worked with people my age, had baggers frequently, had down time at night to chat and chill when things slow down, always got out on time. Leave work in nice upbeat mood, feeling like i'm not too underpaid. can flirt with females my age.

The cashier job is stressful and i work with some b*tches with type A personality. It has slowly made me jaded. There are only women i work with, and they are 26, 31, 60, 30, etc.. Rather stressful, only one other person with me at the desk, we answer phones, handle incoming laundry, money orders, money transfers, lottery, refunds, signing people up for our discount cards, issuing rainchecks, selling cigarettes, cashing checks, handling ticketmaster, paging on the intercom, answering requests, etc. For the same pay! The women always say how they would not be a cashier and how the customer service job is so much better, but i can't see it. Before i close at night i must always count lottery, and make sure all the dry cleaning is completed.

All the while i'm confined to the co-workers i share very little in common with, and many times throughout my shift i gaze at the cashiers and see how much fun they're having, and remember how stress free cashiering is. Sometimes i wish i could remove my chains and run to those greener pastures.

I mean this customer service job is making me emotionally dead, i believe. Not enough time to enjoy customers because i have way too much responsibility, and they keep coming. And some of the complaints i hear make me borderline vomit

One of the older customer service ladies recently had a stroke.(who knows if it was job related)

I mean back when i had the cashier job, i know i didn't dread work atleast to this degree, and i can't believe people are willing to work and perform those tasks at the same pay as a cashier. Am i crazy? I mean now that i think about, there is a reason the position was open for me to be approached about in the first place. Would customer service look as great as advertised on my resume??

Yes i go to school also...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bible_Belt

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It's a grocery store. No one cares. Do what makes you happy.

If you're trying to get something out of it resume-wise, just be friends with the boss. I've had a lot of bosses lie for me in telephone reference checks in regard to giving me a bogus job title to make me sound more important than I am. If they're your friend, they will help you out like that.
 

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go back to cashiering. Back in the day when I used to work all kinds of jobs like that, cashiering was the best. Nothing beats meeting a steady stream of different folks all day long.
 
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More work and responsibility for the same pay? Leave that sh1t for the birds. Do what makes you happy.
 

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TyTe`EyEz said:
More work and responsibility for the same pay? Leave that sh1t for the birds. Do what makes you happy.
^This.

Don't worry about resume material at a grocery store anyway. When you start doing internships directly related to your major, then think about the resume.

Remember, the most important thing is to NOT dread going to work.

See if you can be transferred back to cashiering. For the same money, just be happy man.

Bible Belt is also correct. Stay on good terms with the boss for a good reference.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SoSuaveDude

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That's what i figured bro's, for same pay, why not return to the position that makes me happier. Thanks, and i will look for a better job in the summer time.
 

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Why don't you explain that your doing more work that actually requires skills and would like to get paid more for it.

If not take a customer service job at a competitor and get paid what you deserve.
 

SoSuaveDude

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it's a unionized job, so everyone gets pay raises at the same time, and effort means jack
 
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