should I respond?

[pete101]

i f'd up a bit with this POF girl online, she said she'd let me know about meeting this weekend and i sent:

'let me know by saturday otherwise i'll have made plans with someone by then '

her: 'in that case it's better if we postpone then as it'll clash with my other plans'

what should i respond with?

i feel like cos i made it sound like i'll go meet another girl she's p1ssed now. i cant tell from the msg.

i was thinking of saying 'ok. that's a shame i was really looking forward to seeing you. i'll hang out with my friend instead then. enjoy your weekend '

is this bad?

 

[The_Crack]

no dude.. you just sound like a self centered egotistical prick.
Not all girls want to be treated like ****..

just apologize and say something liek this "you didn't mean to sound like a prick, but its just that a friend wanted to go to some movie real bad but in all honesty, i would much rather hang out with you than him "

apologize, be funny, and compliment her indirectly.

 

[pete101]

no dude.. you just sound like a self centered egotistical prick.
Not all girls want to be treated like ****..

just apologize and say something liek this "you didn't mean to sound like a prick, but its just that a friend wanted to go to some movie real bad but in all honesty, i would much rather hang out with you than him "

apologize, be funny, and compliment her indirectly.

wont that make me sound like im too keen and eager and available? like im backtracking.

shes the 1 who wont commit to a time and will let me know, i've never met her before so i cant really gauge whats happening but end of the day her IL isn't high enough to make me a priority or to offer me an alternative time or day. thats the stinker, a lack of offer of a nother day at least.

if i talk about a friend wanting to see a film, im putting her first (a stranger) ahead of a friend.. thats not good makes it look like i'll drop plans for her at anytime

i know i f'd up by saying 'someone' i coulda just said i'd have made other plans. so now im kinda screwed cos whatever i say it'll be taken badly. if i explain it'll look like im backtracking, if i dont say anything it'll seem like i dont really care and shes just another girl.. i need to keep it simple but at same time convey that im not bitter.

 

[The_Crack]

wont that make me sound like im too keen and eager and available? like im backtracking.

shes the 1 who wont commit to a time and will let me know, i've never met her before so i cant really gauge whats happening but end of the day her IL isn't high enough to make me a priority or to offer me an alternative time or day. thats the stinker, a lack of offer of a nother day at least.

if i talk about a friend wanting to see a film, im putting her first (a stranger) ahead of a friend.. thats not good makes it look like i'll drop plans for her at anytime

i know i f'd up by saying 'someone' i coulda just said i'd have made other plans. so now im kinda screwed cos whatever i say it'll be taken badly. if i explain it'll look like im backtracking, if i dont say anything it'll seem like i dont really care and shes just another girl.. i need to keep it simple but at same time convey that im not bitter.

Honestly dude, girls arn't going to think this deep into it. I don't understand the need to be so controlling and self centered in order to get women. I know its not just you, but so many others who do the same, try to be someone other then themselves..

This shows you are willing to compromise. I mean you have to have the initial meeting somehow, and if you don't fix on it now it will never happen. Trust me. There are "plenty of fish" in the sea haha she can just jump ship, and it will take her no effort cause she is at her computer desk. I've done online dating with great success, and doing the ****y + controlling thing doesn't work well because she can't see body language or hear tone and it just comes off ass arrogant and douchebaggery.

Aplogize to her for sounding rude, and make her smile. you'll come out on top.
Once you meet her you can do whatever you want because there are so many other factors that come into play.

Ps. this is just how i view game and dating. I'm naturally a laid back easy going guy, i'm not to going to change my whole persona to a control freak alpha guy to get women. It may work, but why change myself? sooner or later shes going to get the real me and its not what she bargained for. I just do my own from the get-go, and it is so much easier to sync game with YOUR OWN persona then an another one. Saves alot of failure and heartache and success is that much more lasting